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		<title>Ayelet Waldman &#124; A Perfect Hand &#124; Jane Austen Meets Nora Ephron in Victorian England</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Jul 2026 16:00:32 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>A marriage plot, a servants’ scheme, and one of the funniest novels I’ve read in years. Ayelet Waldman’s latest novel is unlike anything else out there right now. A Perfect Hand is set in Victorian England and it’s a marriage plot with a twist. Alice Lockey, a lady’s maid, has fallen for Charlie Wells, a...</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><b>A marriage plot, a servants’ scheme, and one of the funniest novels I’ve read in years.</b></p>
<p>Ayelet Waldman’s latest novel is unlike anything else out there right now. A Perfect Hand is set in Victorian England and it’s a marriage plot with a twist. Alice Lockey, a lady’s maid, has fallen for Charlie Wells, a lord’s valet. The only way these two servants can be together is if Alice’s Lady Jemima falls for Charlie’s Lord Wynstowe. Which would be straightforward enough, except the lord and the lady despise each other.</p>
<p>The novel has been described as Jane Austen meets Nora Ephron, and that feels exactly right. It’s funny, original, and the voice is captivating from the very first page. Amidst the crinolines, fancy French hairstyles, chamber pots, and stolen kisses, Waldman weaves in some modern-day thinking and feminist ideology that gives the whole thing a sharp, contemporary edge.</p>
<p>In this episode of Elena Meets the Author, Ayelet and I get into how the idea came from her daughter’s advice after years of abandoned drafts, the captivating direct-to-reader Victorian lady-novelist narrator voice she developed, and the obsessive research that went into getting the period right, from the reality of servant life to toxic Victorian cosmetics to hiring a Victorian scholar and British graduate students to catch every anachronism. We also talk about the title’s three meanings, the suffrage era threads woven through the story, and what drew her to escapism with a feminist conscience.</p>
<p>Behind the Stories on Substack is where the conversation goes deeper. Subscribers get writing craft insights from each episode, early access to upcoming guests, and the chance to help shape the show. If you want more than the podcast, you can find it at elenabowes.substack.com.</p>
<p>00:00 Elena meets Ayelet</p>
<p>00:02 Welcome to the Podcast</p>
<p>00:17 Meet Ayelet and the Novel</p>
<p>01:21 Reading a Funny Excerpt</p>
<p>03:39 Finding the Narrator Voice</p>
<p>04:55 Daughter Inspired the Premise</p>
<p>06:19 Twists and Writing Timeline</p>
<p>08:24 Microdosing and Genre Swerves</p>
<p>10:42 Chasing Victorian Language</p>
<p>11:36 Why Shift to Suffrage Era</p>
<p>15:08 Servant Life Research Details</p>
<p>17:57 Bustles and Modern Beauty</p>
<p>19:37 Plastic Surgery and Hollywood</p>
<p>23:13 Meet the Main Characters</p>
<p>28:59 Meet Nigel Winstow</p>
<p>29:28 Calipers and Vanity Science</p>
<p>35:09 Experts Catch Anachronisms</p>
<p>37:14 Audiobook Accent Choices</p>
<p>38:01 Meaning of Perfect Hand</p>
<p>40:03 Stealing Victorian Voices</p>
<p>43:15 Escapism and Suffrage Echoes</p>
<p>47:13 Swiss Army Knife Career</p>
<p>49:08 Next Projects and WWI</p>
<p>51:25 Farewell and Wrap Up</p>
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		<title>The Stolen Queen by Fiona Davis is an Adventure in Time and Place without the Jetlag</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 22 Nov 2025 13:37:27 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I loved my chat with author Fiona Davis about her bestselling novel, The Stolen Queen. This is Fiona’s 8th novel. She didn’t start writing novels until she was 45 and her first national bestseller, The Lions of Fifth Avenue, came out eight years later  when Fiona was 53.  Each of her books is set in...</p>
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<p class="Script">I loved my chat with author Fiona Davis about her bestselling novel, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/The-Stolen-Queen-A-Novel/dp/B0D1ZN9N5Y/ref=sr_1_1?crid=172TTHVAHT1VS&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Zi7CIVbGX29ujQPJrnQUnaGNiIntdNxf-frJwuOZ-uorGxTnhABlcskqwol1dlzaHlvH1OTV_7DS1Z5-BZTcNumHFW05APdPC65-8AMvkWmtdZTjgoXcJIAtMHbdxvWp_DJNRlLKqOyTdljQjxrlYn49MPjQSYBqQTmjlov5gAwHq35HDXo5IoCDAy5OeaHGAMK4IHfdThG9yA9kVVYLFw.KneOU83u1l8W4yDzgz8w88afKYXC2Qzheg6LKbH0jhk&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=the+stolen+queen&amp;qid=1763817093&amp;s=audible&amp;sprefix=the+stolen+queen%2Caudible%2C187&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Stolen Queen</a>. This is Fiona’s 8<sup>th</sup> novel. She didn’t start writing novels until she was 45 and her first national bestseller, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Lions-Fifth-Avenue-Novel/dp/B085PXWQJ4/ref=sr_1_1?crid=56EQCNJW6CZO&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.BDQx2FVaXNTV6R2viB88CWIfx2vt3bwMQnKVi8VjWxIkye5cr_mGLf2xviehq6YEVCFb2XpfrFGx5DuYc2KAYpwPLEEbRRkCctfPkuXTCAQZ5T9yVYEU-Ug4057nn9lM_i6-6zGti2IbFhI9FIyb1tfGSOYeqZw6Ljal9tgeYmUdV1zJMfrnM7tqu5CnfamThHua5o3FhuhCwKphhR29rAhrrXPMUKGKqRenHDS4gDY.h1XuIXPUYgIViERVOeLvUGtlYzguMfZlhG4YjxOBsv8&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=the+lions+of+fifth+avenue&amp;qid=1763817055&amp;sprefix=the+lions+of+fifth+avenue%2Caps%2C204&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Lions of Fifth Avenue</a>, came out eight years later  when Fiona was 53.  Each of her books is set in a New York City landmark from Radio City Music Hall to The Chelsea Hotel to the New York Public Library. Below is just an edited snippet from our conversation. You can listen to the full episode <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/p/ep-36-unveiling-hidden-histories" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> on <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Elena Meets the Author</a> or wherever you listen to podcasts.</p>
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<p class="Script">The Stolen Queen follows a dual-timeline story taking us first to New York in 1978 where a 60-year-old, shy, studious woman named Charlotte Cross, working as a curator at the Metropolitan Museum, is unwillingly teamed up with a 19-year-old overexcited staffer for the Met Ball named Annie to track down a stolen artifact. These two women could not be more different and to Cairo they go. There&#8217;s a cameo from Diana Vreeland who made the Met Ball what it is. Fiona called her &#8216;a tornado&#8217; of a woman.</p>
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<p class="Script">Fiona’s fast-paced, detail-rich novel, which she describes as part <em>Indiana Jones</em>, part <em>Thelma and Louise</em> and part <em>The Devil Wears Prada</em>, made me want to hop on a plane to Cairo. I wanted to experience the hazy sand-filled orange sky, the ancient tombs in the Valley of the Kings, and the chaotic maize-like streets of Cairo.</p>
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<p>We travel back in time to 1936 Egypt where a much younger 18-year-old Charlotte heads to Egypt as part of her university studies to be the Girl Friday for a group of archaeologists. There, tragedy strikes causing Charlotte to flee Egypt, never to return again until fate intervenes 42 years later, ie 1978.</p>
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<p class="Script"><strong>Elena: What is your process? Do you start with the story or the building?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">The building definitely. I was a journalist before I started writing fiction, and so doing all that research is important to me. That’s where all my story ideas come from.  I try and not think about characters or story, just let the history wash over me and little details will start to stick. It&#8217;s just a matter of doing enough research and trusting my gut.</p>
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<p class="Script">For the research on the New York Public Library for <em>The Lions of Fifth Avenue</em>, I found that they built a seven-room apartment deep inside the library for the super and his family to live in. They lived there for 30 years. Their daughter was born in the library.  I read that and thought, okay, a family living in the library, where do I go from there?</p>
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<p class="Script"><strong> Elena: And for The Stolen Queen, what sparked that story?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I saw that the pharaoh Hatshepsut had a whole gallery at the Met and realised wow, this was an important woman. And then I learned about how she was really lost to history.  That’s one of the things I&#8217;m drawn to, every book I&#8217;ve done, there&#8217;s been some character inspired by a woman who got shafted.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b>  <strong>Can you tell us a little bit about Hatshepsut?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Hatshepsut was Egyptian royalty. She married her half-brother at the age of 12 as one did in Egyptian royalty. He died not long after and she didn&#8217;t have a son. And so, the, the crown went to the son of one of the concubines, but it was a baby.</p>
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<p class="Script">So, in the meantime, Hatshepsut stepped up and became the regent. And she ruled as the Pharaoh for 20 years, very successfully. There were all these advances, peace and prosperity. And then she died. And at some point, her stepson, who came to power, ordered many of her statues destroyed, her images hacked out of any reliefs. And so because of that, Hatshepsut was really lost to history. People knew she ruled, but they didn&#8217;t know much about her.</p>
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<p class="Script">And it wasn&#8217;t until the Met team were doing a dig in the 1920s, they found this huge quarry filled with her statues and realized, she must have been very important. But what happened? And they said, well, it must&#8217;ve been that the stepson was angry that she ruled for so long.  The Met catalog described her in the fifties as a vain, ambitious, unscrupulous woman and a detested stepmother.</p>
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<p class="Script">But then 10 years later a scholar found that the destruction had to have happened at least 24 years after her death which is a long time to hold a grudge. And they realized, no, it was about the line of succession. The stepson wanted his son to rule and didn&#8217;t want the idea of a female pharaoh out in the zeitgeist. So that&#8217;s why he did it. Her journey as a woman pharaoh has been fraught in a way that male pharaohs rarely are.</p>
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<p class="Script">Not only did this book make me want to explore far-flung locales, but it also made me want to consider exploring what’s closer to home, namely The Metropolitan Museum of Art. Fiona’s web site has a <a href="https://static1.squarespace.com/static/566f1854d82d5ef0c161ea5e/t/67af8d8ed48fa4109a5f0da9/1739558306179/THE+STOLEN+QUEEN+Scavenger+Hunt+%281%29+%281%29.pdf" target="_blank" rel="noopener">scavenger hunt page</a> where several objects mentioned in<em> The Stolen Queen</em> can be found at the Met. It’s quite a fun post-read activity.</p>
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<p class="Script">My favorite object on the Met scavenger hunt was the <em>Fragment of a Queen&#8217;s Face</em> which in the novel is called the Cerulean Queen, linked to a fictional pharaoh Hathorkare who is based on the real life pharaoh Hatshepsut.</p>
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<p>Second favorite was the broad collar:</p>
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<p class="Script"><strong>What do you hope readers take away from your book?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">If you like going to museums, or even if you don&#8217;t like going to museums, the key is to go and look at a museum, like the Met, not as a collection of objects, but as a collection of stories. Get a guide, join a tour, let the experts tell you about these objects. It gives you a much better sense of time, place, where we are now versus what things were like then.</p>
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<p class="Script"><strong>Elena: Did you always know you wanted to write a book?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Never. No way. I loved reading, but never could have written a book. It wasn&#8217;t until I was about 45 and started. I had a story idea that I couldn&#8217;t shake and I wanted to read the book. And so I thought, I&#8217;ll just try writing, but I won&#8217;t tell a soul. No one will know. And that did eventually morph into my first book and I&#8217;m glad I waited. because when I was younger, I had nothing to say on the page. I hadn&#8217;t really lived life enough.</p>
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<p class="Script"><em>November, 2025</em></p>
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		<title>Gratitude Schmatitude</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 16 Nov 2025 18:14:05 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>There’s nothing like a holiday to make me feel ungrateful…I hate being forced to be happy. I like normal everyday life where I’m not forced to feel anything. I’d rather happiness or gratitude snuck up on me, like when the scone place has one last scone…or my kids call me just to talk, not because...</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="font-weight: 400;">There’s nothing like a holiday to make me feel ungrateful…I hate being forced to be happy. I like normal everyday life where I’m not forced to feel anything. I’d rather happiness or gratitude snuck up on me, like when the scone place has one last scone…or my kids call me just to talk, not because they need something, or the barista smiles at me. Or I make every single green light. I don’t need much, but I know what I don’t need: Tinsel, turkey, and <em>please no</em> pumpkin pie.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I am preparing myself. It’s that time of year where we’re all supposed to be jolly and excited for the holidays, where we have to get along even if we’re quietly seething.  Please let’s not get an encore of the fist fight year. I hate to be Bah Humbug, but I wish we could just zoom past them, or at least limit the celebrations to just two tense meals and one festive movie- even that can be contentious – why does one family member get veto rights on both <em>Love Actually</em> and <em>The Holiday</em>?</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I’m very polite in my everyday life. I can often be found expressing my gratitude to Chat GPT. I apologize when I’m wrong &#8211; <em>I’m sorry my grocery cart knocked you over.</em> Please comes naturally to me, too – <em>But since you’re on the floor, could you please hand me that jar of peanut butter? I don’t know why they put them so low.</em></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">But being cheery for several days in a row is depressing.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">More broadly, I like to think I’m thankful for my family. Like, I’m thankful my ex-husband isn’t at the Thanksgiving table anymore. There’s a lot of divorce in our family, so holidays are a good time to be grateful for divorce. But compromising on who gets to see which kids and grandkids does get in the way of those gratitude-vibes.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Luckily, I’m very happily married round two. But I am not thankful for how long he can eat Thanksgiving leftovers. By day three I can’t look at another rubbery sweet potato, limp green bean, smooshed brussels sprout or leathery piece of turkey without gagging. There’s a reason we only eat turkey once a year. My husband makes a full plate for lunch every day and eats with gusto. Opposites attract? Not in this case.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I was listening to the news, and a congressman was raising awareness for starving Americans by walking 40 miles. My first thought, and I’m ashamed to admit it, was that’s a lot of steps. Way more than 10,000. And while I feel horribly for those starving people, it didn’t actually make me feel gratitude…More like wishful &#8211; <em>I wish I could give them our Thanksgiving leftovers. </em>That would have made me feel grateful on so many levels.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">It’s the excess I hate about the holidays. How many presents do I need to buy? How much food do I need to cook (ok order)? How many X-mas cards do I need to send before I can relax, pour a glass of wine, put my feet up and relish the days before NY&#8217;s Eve fireworks keep me up?</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I used to tell my sister, expect nothing on your birthday and then you won’t be disappointed. She laughed and thought I was being a ridiculous downer. But then she had an underwhelming birthday. Guess who was disappointed?</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I’m in my friend Marc’s camp when it comes to holidays. Celebrate that holiday and then move on to normal life as quickly as possible. My husband’s family likes to celebrate any holiday for about five days longer than necessary. That would be six days. They’re a joyous bunch. They start talking about the next holiday as soon as the last one ended.  They actually like each other. Can you imagine?</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">My kids still haven’t forgiven me for booking flights on December 25<sup>th</sup> throughout their childhood. “It’s great! The planes are empty,” I’d tell them.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Christmas is over-rated. Now December 26<sup>th</sup>, that’s a great day. But please, let’s keep that on the down low.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><em>November, 2025</em></p>
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		<title>Maggie; Or, a Man and a Woman Walk into a Bar- This Slender Novel Resonated Big-time</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Nov 2025 20:07:23 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Whenever I choose a book for the podcast, I’m looking for beautiful writing, a compelling story and themes that resonate with me. My latest pick, Maggie; Or, a Man and a Woman Walk into a Bar by debut author Katie Yee ticked all those boxes. It’s a slim novel of 199 pages, a comic tragedy...</p>
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<p class="Script">Whenever I choose a book for the podcast, I’m looking for beautiful writing, a compelling story and themes that resonate with me. My latest pick, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=maggie+or+a+man+and+a+women+walk+into+a+bar&amp;crid=IRFWPRMNZQAC&amp;sprefix=maggie+or+a+man%2Caps%2C306&amp;ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-expert-pd-ops-ranker_5_15" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Maggie; Or, a Man and a Woman Walk into a Bar</a> by debut author Katie Yee ticked all those boxes.</p>
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<p class="Script">It’s a slim novel of 199 pages, a comic tragedy that reminded me a little of Nora Ephron’s <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Heartburn-Nora-Ephron-audiobook/dp/B00A30B4IO/ref=sr_1_1?crid=25WUAZOASUAOC&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.PPGq4GpRjFpMDbFzl0yJLWa1dUsCSEw4EqpPzWERAqj6CVK3_2tlTFl_PbAQbTK60SVdDqYNUw1UAxuMFtk65xA0WmBICszOK7c9BKaTKTBFq_xARl7KymiLLv2fx-EvqdPlpUsitGTn9V3J_CMzjHkGIiao9bFm9ItfKTvFobmOd8H6zD3mEtrqhQG7Ew03Hpf411snkaAkms3R5nOplbkpcuV4AZ6kJhC28L720GE.xeb8R8b9kRP8eJo0SQYiPrrUa0sDtapbkUXl6J9Wnec&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=heartburn+ephron&amp;qid=1762543620&amp;sprefix=heartburn+ephron%2Caps%2C154&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Heartburn</a>.  Both stories involve a cheating husband, a heartbroken wife, but the protagonists are very different. Nora&#8217;s protagonist is angry and funny and finds consolation in food and recipes. Katie&#8217;s protagonist is watchful, less angry, funny, and finds consolation in stories. The book title <em>Maggie; Or, a Man and a Woman Walk into a Bar</em> makes you think of an old joke. Only when the protagonist walks into a bar, or in this case an all-you-can-eat Indian buffet restaurant with her husband, he tells her he&#8217;s having an affair with a white woman named Maggie. Soon after the protagonist discovers she has breast cancer and names the tumor Maggie.</p>
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<p class="Script">Now divorce, cancer, not such cheery topics, but in Katie&#8217;s hands, I kept laughing, not loud, raucous laughter, but more chuckling about the narrator&#8217;s relatable observations. She hates the tiny triangular paper cups in the doctor&#8217;s waiting room that never hold enough water and the outdated cheesy magazines. She never sees issues of the Atlantic or the New Yorker. Maybe, she muses, because people who read those magazines are too smart to get cancer. She writes ‘The Guide to My Husband: A User’s Manual” and ponders whether she should give it to Maggie, the mistress, not the tumor.</p>
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<p class="Script">When I asked Katie what she hoped readers would take away from her novel, she said:</p>
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<p class="Script">I hope readers feel like they can revisit and retell their own story. They don&#8217;t have to hold onto stories that are not serving them. They can take the pen back.</p>
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<p class="Script">Katie talks about how we each have our origin stories, including, in the novel’s case, how the narrator met her husband. But when he left her, she realized that story didn’t work for her anymore. I experienced that same thing when my husband and I divorced. I remember thinking what do I do with all those stories, the photo albums, the letters (we met way before email), the shared memories. It was a big chunk of my brain and heart. I had to find a different origin story with a new ending.</p>
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<p class="Script">Katie said it doesn’t need to be a long marriage; any relationship can work its way into our origin story.</p>
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<p class="Script">Who among us, she said, has not dated someone for a little bit too long just because the meet cute story was so good. I dated this guy right out of college. We met on the subway, and he asked me what I was reading, and I was like, this is it. A meet cute to end all meet cutes. And, you know, he wasn&#8217;t amazing. But I was like, I think we just have to hang on because the universe would never have given me a story so good if it wasn&#8217;t supposed to work out.</p>
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<p class="Script">Another element to Katie’s novel that I loved was how the protagonist mothered her young children. She doesn&#8217;t  pressure them to be a certain way, to get top grades. Unlike her ex, she doesn’t correct mistakes on their homework. Instead, the mother can’t wait to see what individuals her children will turn out to be. I asked Katie if this was how she grew up.</p>
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<p class="Script">Absolutely. While I&#8217;m not myself a mother, so much of the motherhood aspect of the book, I&#8217;ve really pulled from my relationship to my own mother. I completely credit my mother and her curiosity about me and her love of storytelling. I was never sent to bed without a bedtime story. My mom was a classics major as an undergraduate, so she would tell me kid-friendly versions of all the Greek myths, and some Chinese myths that she knew.</p>
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<p class="Script">She would also do this cool thing, a parenting hack, where she would tell me a story and then she would say, okay, now it&#8217;s your turn. And this is kind of a nice way if you&#8217;re tired of entertaining your kids, you let them entertain you.</p>
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<p class="Script">I remember she&#8217;d pick me up after preschool, take me to a diner where we’d get French fries and a vanilla milkshake and we would just tell each other stories. I wanted the narrator in the book to look at her children with that same curiosity and love.</p>
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<p class="Script">And the other main way Katie’s novel resonated with me, was through the narrator’s best friend Darlene. Everyone should have a Darlene in their lives, the friend who knows exactly what we need before we do, who knows what to stay at tense moments, who gets us and is there for us when the going gets tough.  When the narrator asks Darlene how she thinks Maggie, the mistress, is in bed,</p>
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<p class="Script"> Darlene replies terrible. She looks like a real pillow princess. … She lies there like a dead fish! Doesn’t move her hips.  She fakes orgasms, but in the ways guys like.</p>
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<p class="Script">Katie told me Darlene was an important character for me to write into this book because there are so many “divorce novels” out there. But I&#8217;m always like, where is her best friend? For me personally, I&#8217;ve never had to go through anything difficult in my life without the help or the shoulder or the ear of a very best friend. I&#8217;m lucky in that I&#8217;ve got a couple of Darlene&#8217;s in my life.</p>
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<p class="Script">And I have a couple of Darlene’s in my life, who always make the bad times a little less bad. You know who you are.</p>
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<p class="Script">The above has been edited for clarity and brevity. You can listen to the full episode<a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/p/exploring-comic-tragedies-with-debut" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> here</a> on my podcast <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Elena Meets the Author</a>, or wherever you choose to listen to podcasts.</p>
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<p><em>November 2025</em></p>
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		<title>I Have Begrudgingly Become an Adventure Traveler in my 60’s – THIS IS WHAT I’VE LEARNED.</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Elena Bowes]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 11 Oct 2025 13:15:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>In lieu of interviewing an author this week, I am posting a blog about a recent  trip I took, and what I learned. I hope you like it. I am not an adventurous person. I’m curious about the world, but staying alive is very important to me. Taking the subway in Manhattan can be all...</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="font-weight: 400;">In lieu of interviewing an author this week, I am posting a blog about a recent  trip I took, and what I learned. I hope you like it.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I am not an adventurous person. I’m curious about the world, but staying alive is very important to me. Taking the subway in Manhattan can be all the thrill seeking I need.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">When I met my second husband we were both already in our fifties. When he told me about some of his favorite trips &#8211; stalking Grizzly’s in Canada; sailing from Seattle to San Francisco with 25’ waves; and canoeing alongside crocodiles in the Zambezi River, it occurred to me that those three trips would tie for my perfect idea of hell.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">About 15 years ago, my friend Melanie went on a safari with her family. She showed me the videos. There were a lot of people screaming and jeeps fleeing stalking animals. Everyone survived. But I decided after seeing that family video that being on a virtual safari was good enough for me. Not a huge loss as safaris have never been on my bucket list.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Until I met my husband. For some reason he was determined to feed me to the lions, I mean, go on safari. I told him the wildlife near our Connecticut home was all the safari I needed. Then we were invited to a close friend’s son’s wedding in Kenya and my husband, like Julius Caesar crossing the Rubicon, seized his moment.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“You can’t go to Kenya without going on a safari!”</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">My friend George once told me that his father died of encephalitis on safari. He was bitten by a Tsetse fly. He was 54.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">&#8220;Which country?” I had asked.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">“Kenya.”</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">My husband should have been a travel agent in his former life. He loves to plan, sending me multiple calendar invites, way too many for any human to read. I accept them without reading. It’s quicker.  Ditto emails. I’m a professional skimmer.  One day as I was skimming, I spotted the word “hippos” (plural) and the phrase “camping on the riverbank”.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I remember a zookeeper on a zoo tour once calling hippos <em>the cute bad boys of the animal kingdom.</em> Don’t let their come hither looks deceive you. One wrong move and they will take an arm or a leg. That email, I opened. My husband was recommending we stay in a camp on the riverbank to watch the hippos up close.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“It’s very secluded,” he gushed.  “We will have a lot of privacy and a great view of the hippos.”</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">My reply was concise. “Not happening.”</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">For some reason I continued to trust my husband after that. But a few weeks before we were due to fly to Nairobi, my son texted late one night:</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">Are you staying in a tented safari or will there be walls?</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“Great question. Walls.” I nudged the man falling asleep in bed next to me, “Our camp has walls, right?” I asked.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“No, tented. It’s in the emails, Elena.” He mumbled before falling asleep.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">I felt my stomach tense up. “Tented!” I carefully texted my son.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">His reply? “My friends did that. The lions roared all night. They didn’t get any sleep.”</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">It occurred to me to be angry but in truth, I was relieved. I had the information. Now we just had to book the nearest hotel with walls. Problem solved.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I’m not exactly sure where the communication breakdown happened but fast forward a week and I’m asking my doctor for some Xanax and preparing to stay in a place <em>without walls</em> next to lions. And this was all before I learned about the Black Mamba snake- one bite and arrivederci.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Let’s just say that I didn’t expect to like our trip to the North Mara Conservancy, much less come back alive.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">***</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I had a question ready to ask as soon as I found someone to ask.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">It took two short flights from Nairobi to the North Mara airstrip; a grassy field dotted with jeeps awaiting the next shift. Our two Masai guides Francis and Siparo wore traditional robes and beaten up open-toed sandals. I was wearing boots because I didn’t share in their Black Mamba death wish.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">As we got into their Toyota Land Cruiser, I decided to come straight out with my burning question: <em>Excuse me, but do you two carry guns?</em></p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“No guns, no spears,” Francis smiled from the driver’s seat, “Only God will help us.”</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">That was not the answer I was hoping for.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I probed more deeply until I felt better: They’d grown up on the land, been doing this for years and the animals thought of the jeep as a large nonthreatening object, like a tree. The animals were much more interested in finding prey, and they didn’t consider humans prey.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I relaxed a bit and looked around. We were surrounded by wide open grassy plains with the occasional tree and rolling hills in the far distance. The September sun was warm on my face. It felt good. I patted the Xanax in my pocket reassuringly.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">We were dropped at the <a href="https://serian.com/we-call-it-home/masai-mara-kenya/serian-the-original/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Serian Original Camp</a>, agreeing to meet back up with our guides in the late afternoon. That felt great until they added, <em>to see if we could find some lions</em>.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">That first day we left at sunrise traversing the North Mara Conservancy, 80 thousand acres of protected land that border the Serengeti Plains. Only ten other camps had access to this unspoilt, untamed slice of nature. After seeing an abundance of animals … giraffe, gazelle, elephant, it was time for the <em>main</em> attraction and I’m not trying to be funny. The lion sat in the distance, surveying his kingdom, mane wild around his face. I’d never been so happy to be a tree.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">After dinner my husband and I were escorted by a staff member carrying a stick and a flashlight to our tented suite. The ensuite tent had running hot water and electricity. There was no WIFI. If we were attacked in the night we’d have to scream.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">The zippered tent was built on a platform and had a porch overlooking the Mara River. The rushing water lulled me into a surprisingly deep slumber.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">The next day, after a sunrise drive Francis and Siparo set up a table and chairs for us and then laid out a sumptuous buffet on the hood of the jeep- juicy melon, peaches, fresh squeezed juice, homemade granola, jam, toast, hard boiled eggs, and steaming coffee. After making sure nothing was stalking my granola, I began to eat. And somehow eating outside by a stream, shaded by a huge tree was magical.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">By sundown cocktails, I was sold. For three days I didn’t think about emails, Instagram, the news, President who? I became obsessed with spotting animals with my binoculars. My world was only the gorgeous landscape and its inhabitants. Fascination trumped fear- learning about animal behaviour- the hierarchy, survival of the fittest, elephants are unpredictable, lionesses do the hunting, giraffes prune all the trees, hyenas are the garbage collectors.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">I asked a lot of questions, not about things like how much sedation would stop an attacking buffalo, but questions I wouldn’t normally ask, like: How long will that cub live with its mother? Why are the wildebeest, zebras and gazelles grazing so nonchalantly?</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">Aren’t they worried about being eaten? How fast can a cheetah run? And even &#8211; without a thought for my own survival but purely out of curiosity – Where do the black mambas live?</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I even stepped out of the jeep with Siparo, going on walks, keeping a lookout while Francis drove the jeep slowly nearby.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">There’s nothing like walking in the wild, my senses were on high alert, noticing every footprint, every rustling in the grass or creature in the distance.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I can’t tell you how relaxing it is to get absorbed in another world, a vital world that is untouched, by man and has its own natural order. My kids texted me after a few days to see how I was doing, was I okay?</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I looked around. I was doing okay. I was better than okay. I was stimulated and awe inspired. I had challenged myself at 63 and confirmed that not only was staying alive important to me but so was living.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><em>October, 2025</em></p>
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