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		<title>Marjan Kamali talks about The Lion Women of Tehran</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p> I spoke with Marjan Kamali about her award-winning bestselling terrific novel, The Lion Women of Tehran. Above all, this book is a great story. It traces the lives of two childhood friends in Tehran in the 1950’s who come from very different backgrounds, and yet their bond seems indestructible. We follow these two girls, Homa...</p>
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<p class="Script"> I spoke with Marjan Kamali about her award-winning bestselling terrific novel, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+lion+women+of+tehran&amp;i=audible&amp;crid=231O3L25ONH2M&amp;sprefix=the+lion+women+of+tehran%2Caudible%2C71&amp;ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-expert-pd-ops-ranker_1_24" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Lion Women of Tehran</a>. Above all, this book is a great story. It traces the lives of two childhood friends in Tehran in the 1950’s who come from very different backgrounds, and yet their bond seems indestructible.</p>
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<p class="Script">We follow these two girls, Homa and Ellie as adventurous, playful seven-year-olds through to adolescence and young adulthood and beyond. We learn about their hopes and dreams, losses and struggles, joys and sorrows. And we read about how the seemingly indestructible friendship is jeopardized by a single act of betrayal.</p>
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<p class="Script">Marjan’s writing makes me feel like I am smack in the middle of these neighbourhoods, uptown, downtown, the schools, the bizarre, the parties. I felt the freedom these girls enjoyed walking down the street in their stylish clothes in the sixties and seventies with their beehive hairdos. This makes the eighties after the revolution in 1979 when Iranian women lost all those freedoms that much more painful. The new government listens in on phone calls, reads private letters, spies, imprisons protesters. Importantly, Marjan is careful to keep the turbulent and violent times in the background of her story, while the tale of how these young girls grew up to become amazing women is always in the foreground.</p>
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<p class="Script">Below are some edited abbreviated highlights from our conversation. You can listen to the full Q&amp;A <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/p/unveiling-the-lion-women-of-tehran" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> on my podcast <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Elena Meets the Author</a>.</p>
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<p class="Script">Elena: Marjan, hello and welcome to the show.</p>
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<p class="Script">Marjan: Hello, Elena. Thank you so much for having me.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> I am so happy to have you. I got lost in the world of these girls as they grew up and their friendship blossomed and then was severely tested. It’s all about the story. </strong><strong>It&#8217;s a great way to learn about history without really realizing you&#8217;re learning about history, if you know what I mean.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Marjan:</b> That&#8217;s the best way to learn about history. I really think books save us. They keep us grounded and they keep us tethered. And stories for me are the best way to learn about the news and history because you get a deeper perspective, a deeper education. I could read an article in the newspaper, and I can read the headlines, but when I read a book,  I&#8217;m immersed in the story, I really feel like I get to know that world.</p>
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<p class="Script">You can time travel through books. There&#8217;s also a lot of therapy in reading because you feel less alone and you see how other people have felt what you felt, even if they live on the other side of the planet. It’s just a very immersive and healing experience.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> I read that you were working on another story when the idea for this novel came to you. Can you tell us about that?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">Yes. After, my second novel, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/The-Stationery-Shop-Marjan-Kamali-audiobook/dp/B07L3B8RN2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=15CT3EI2G7PBM&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ST4b4y_Iauc1YFsLLCZWL7Qoxl5IgoH1dMlMs8ykCWss1B6Ialj9RDX1pq6Dil5xeBETWoWf-JdPcHfEQDjH1FP5Ip2cMvAQZ00SUaEP3gQ.SwSPE2zHjDuCb-1UhFbIXoGGtRHhyIxRVe7TDtbaRpY&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=the+stationery+shop&amp;qid=1754418438&amp;s=audible&amp;sprefix=the+stationary+shop%2Caudible%2C74&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Stationery Shop</a> came out my career changed because that book was a bestseller, and I felt under great pressure to write the next one.  I had written over a hundred pages of this other novel about moms in suburbia and firstborns going off to college.</p>
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<p class="Script">But when the pandemic happened, I found some posts on Instagram of my own childhood friend and seeing her face again just brought back so many memories for me. I was flooded with not just memories but emotions.  I felt as though I could remember the texture of our friendship. I could remember her mom.  I remembered how we used to play together every day and share our dreams. And I realized how these friendships we make in childhood really shape us because. Her influence on my life has lasted even though the friendship hasn&#8217;t. And so, I just thought again about how friendship breakups are just as heart wrenching as romantic ones.</p>
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<p class="Script">Except we don&#8217;t have as many songs for them although my daughter tells me Taylor Swift does.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> lol</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> But what I knew in my heart then was that I really wanted to write the story of a broken friendship. So, I had to take a deep breath, put aside that other book that I had started to write, and that&#8217;s when I started <i>The Lion Women of Tehran.</i></p>
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<p class="Script">I made up Ellie and Homa. And I deliberately made them born the year my mother was born -1943- because by doing that, I could show the arc in the background of the women&#8217;s rights movement in Iran.</p>
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<p class="Script">The Women&#8217;s Rights Movement in Iran officially began in the 1920s. That&#8217;s when the first women&#8217;s rights organizations began. So, throughout the twenties, thirties, forties, women were working hard organizing. And then in Iran, a lot changed in the fifties, which coincides with Ellie and Homa&#8217;s burgeoning friendship and their girlhood.</p>
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<p class="Script">And then as they come of age in the sixties, women got the right to vote, and then a lot of laws which were harmful to women changed to benefit them, such as the age of marriage, divorce laws, child custody laws, a lot of things. And so, we see as Ellie and Homa become women, how their womanhood sort of echoes this expanded world.</p>
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<p class="Script">And then in the seventies, so much of that freedom is taken for granted, but then those rights are later taken away. So that&#8217;s a movement in the background. But the core of the story is this friendship between these two girls who later grow up to become women.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> I really loved the beginning when they become friends age seven, playing hopscotch, that annoying boy, spirited Homa doing pranks on studious Ellie.  It was all so believable. We all were seven at one point.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I feel it&#8217;s such a fleeting time in real life. But also, on the page in a lot of adult novels, we don&#8217;t spend too much time in girlhood. But I think this time that you&#8217;re mentioning – girlhood – is when the sassiness and innocence and confidence is still there in girls before it gets eroded with adolescence and all those insecurities.</p>
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<p class="Script">It&#8217;s such a special time and I really enjoyed writing those scenes and being there with Ellie and Homa, like you said, when they&#8217;re playing hopscotch or just having their first ‘play date’ The first time you go to a friend&#8217;s house is your foray into the world outside of your family, and that strong bond that you create with a friend sometimes is like a blueprint for later romantic relationships because you are learning how to navigate the world that doesn&#8217;t associate you with your own family in any way.</p>
<p class="Script">So, when Ellie goes to Homa&#8217;s house, it&#8217;s really the first time she&#8217;s not in a relative&#8217;s house. She’s thinking, so this is how this family functions. This is what their kitchen is like. This is what her mother is like. It&#8217;s a way to open your eyes to blueprints of family dynamics that you maybe didn&#8217;t know existed.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Totally. Your descriptions of Tehran back in the fifties are so authentic. I imagine your mother must have been a good source.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">Yes. It&#8217;s always a compliment slash slight shock when a reader writes to me and says, I love how you brought to life your childhood in the 1950s.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> I hate that.</p>
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<p class="Script"> On the one hand, it&#8217;s a huge compliment. On the other hand, it&#8217;s like, hmm, how old do I look?</p>
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<p class="Script">I was in a position of privilege because I had access to all these people in my family who had lived In Tehran in the 1950s before I was born. I only lived in Iran for a very short time, so I bugged every known relative, and a lot of people didn&#8217;t want to speak to me. They&#8217;re like, oh my goodness, enough with the questions. I don&#8217;t know, we just did what we did. We lived our lives.</p>
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<p class="Script">And I&#8217;d be like, no, but can you please explain to me what you were wearing and what your shoes looked like? And where in particular did you eat when you were in college? Did you go out? Did you eat in the cafeteria?  I bugged a lot of people, but yes, for the Lion Women of Tehran, my mom was my number one victim, and she did speak to me.</p>
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<p class="Script">So, Ellie and Homa go to my mother&#8217;s high school. She described it for me, and I needed to know how were you seated in the classroom? Did you each have a desk? Did you share a desk? Like, tell me about the layout and the teachers. And particularly as you mentioned, I needed to know everything about what they ate because I am a foodie and so it really interested me.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Homa and Ellie are very different people. Homa is from a modest background. She doesn&#8217;t care about wealth. She wants to be a judge. When she grows up, she wants to right unfairness wherever she sees it.</p>
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<p class="Script">Ellie&#8217;s family has a lot more money. Ellie is prettier and Ellie marries Mehrdad, the boy everyone has a crush on and yet Ellie is jealous of Homa from the first time they meet when she sees that Homa is missing her two front teeth. And Ellie wishes she was missing some teeth too. <strong>Can you talk about their friendship and what attracted one to the other?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Ellie, to begin with, perhaps by nature or perhaps by the nurture of her narcissistic mother, she has a jealous trait. So, Ellie is almost primed to be jealous. When they&#8217;re seven years old in that first scene when they meet, Ellie isn&#8217;t that into Homa. She&#8217;s like, who is this girl? She&#8217;s annoying me. She&#8217;s poking me, she&#8217;s giggling. Where&#8217;s the friend I thought I would meet?</p>
<p class="Script">But Ellie can&#8217;t help but be won over by Homa because Homa has a characteristic that Ellie covets. Homa is unabashedly herself. She&#8217;s comfortable in her skin. She has nothing to hide, nothing to cover. She is not insecure. She&#8217;s a confident soul and she believes what she believes. She doesn&#8217;t feel as though she needs to adjust or tweak in any way, which Ellie does. So, I think Ellie is very much attracted to Homa’s natural charisma and to Homa&#8217;s confidence and how she feels comfortable in her skin.</p>
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<p class="Script">And what does Homa see in Ellie? Homa has that proverbial heart of gold and maybe she senses Ellie&#8217;s discomfort. Maybe Homa is one of those people whose vibrations are tuned to other people&#8217;s pretty well, and she sees this girl and she&#8217;s nice and she just wants to, basically, initially just wants to play hopscotch.</p>
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<p class="Script">And then I think she sees a lot of potential in Ellie that&#8217;s being unmet and she&#8217;s no fool Homa. She knows that Ellie&#8217;s family life is worse than hers, even though Ellie ends up having more money and initially had more money. Homa knows Ellie craves having a father and that Ellie deep down wishes she had a different mother. So, I think Homa is just very empathetic and takes Ellie into her fold.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>How did you balance the historical accuracy with the storytelling? </strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> In writing historical fiction, and particularly in writing historical fiction about Iran, I have to be very accurate. So, I did not make up any historical events.</p>
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<p class="Script">I don&#8217;t want to make up a historical event that did not exist for the purposes of my story. So, everything I write about that’s historical happened. Ellie and Homa, I made up their friendship. I made up their families. But the women&#8217;s march that happened in Iran in March 1979, I did not make up.</p>
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<p class="Script">Thousands of women did march in the streets for days on end because they were worried about what may come. And so, the revolution, the war, all those things are historically accurate, and fact checked.</p>
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<p class="Script">Now here&#8217;s what I think about the balance. If you want to read a history book, then you are going to read a history book. There are many excellent history books about what happened in any country.</p>
<p class="Script">But if you are reading fiction, I think that a reader wants a story. They&#8217;re there for the story and for the characters. So personally, as a writer, I like the historical events to serve as a background and for the relationship between the characters to serve as the foreground. I always think back to what EL Doctorow said, and if I may name drop at this moment, he was my professor at my creative writing MFA program at NYU.</p>
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<p class="Script">He said history shows us what happened, but fiction shows us how what happened, make people feel. And I am so much more interested in that. How did that make the people feel? How did that affect a friendship? How did that affect a romance? How did that affect a parent-child relationship? That kind of a thing.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong> Can we talk about your title<em>, The Lion Women of Tehran</em>. Homa is clearly a lioness as she fights to protect women to the end, but are there other ways to be a lioness, more subtle ways? Would you say the term lioness applies to other characters your book?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Yes, I would. You know, of the two friends, Homa is the easy lion woman because you just look at her. She has a sense of social justice from when she&#8217;s a kid. She becomes an activist at a very young age. She sees an injustice; she wants to fix it. She&#8217;s out on the streets marching.</p>
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<p class="Script">But I think you can be a lioness even if you don&#8217;t do all those things. So, when we think of Ellie, Ellie wants to be pretty and loved and to marry a really nice guy and to have children and to enjoy the simple pleasures of life or what Homa would dub the bourgeois pleasures of life.</p>
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<p class="Script">But that&#8217;s who she is. And I think she is also a lion woman because it takes an extraordinary amount of courage to live a very ordinary life, to be at home holding down the fort, to be the wife, to be the mother, as though that&#8217;s a simple job, which it&#8217;s not at all. And so yes, Ellie is also a lion woman.</p>
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<p class="Script">Through my readers, I have learned that some believe Ellie&#8217;s mother to be a lion woman. And that surprised me because I didn&#8217;t. She started off being such an archetype of a narcissistic parent, but they showed me the parts of her that did require a tremendous amount of courage as well.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>What would you like readers to take away from the book?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Ideally, I hope that this read is healing because Homa goes through a lot, Ellie goes through a lot.,  I don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s the fact that we don&#8217;t have losses in life because we all have losses in life. We all experience loss, but it&#8217;s the way you balance the losses in your life with the gains in your life that matters.</p>
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<p class="Script">And I feel that Ellie and Homa heal and so I hope it&#8217;s healing to finish the book.</p>
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<p class="Script">The other thing I hope readers take away is that freedom is fragile. Freedom is not guaranteed. There was a time which we see in the book when women thought they were good. They were done; they were guaranteed these rights. And then we see that the pendulum can swing, and those rights can be taken away. I cannot tell you the disbelief and the incredulous aspect of this. Before the revolution people were like, of course that wouldn&#8217;t happen here. Are you kidding me? That can&#8217;t happen here. Look at us. We are the most progressive, westernized country in this region. Those things can change. It is scary because you just don&#8217;t realize how quickly things can change.</p>
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<p class="Script">And the last  thing I hope they take away is really the lasting influence of friendship. You don&#8217;t need to stay in touch. You don&#8217;t need to continue the friendship for that friendship&#8217;s influence to matter and to shape you as a person.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Thank you so much, Marjan. I really enjoyed talking to you. I so appreciate your taking the time. Thank you.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Marjan:</b> Thank you so much. I&#8217;ve really enjoyed this conversation. Thank you for having me.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Pleasure, pleasure, pleasure.</p>
<p><em>August, 2025</em></p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I spoke with fantastic writer Yael van der Wouden about her award-winning debut novel The Safe Keep. A psychological thriller mixed with erotica, revenge and a subtle incisive angle on Hitler&#8217;s war, The Safe Keep captivated me from the get-go. I&#8217;m not the only one. The book won the Women’s Prize for Fiction, as well...</p>
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<p class="Script">I spoke with fantastic writer Yael van der Wouden about her award-winning debut novel <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Safekeep-Yael-van-Wouden-ebook/dp/B0CL5F4B19/ref=sr_1_1?crid=5RBP25HT1X4B&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.0v9gWogxhybWiglppqHY7pAx7qi1mhd22HTO6Lb0qsVMtKmsMezsKUF6VOHbR4XmZElKPi07415xmkNr6WCK3_tVBnwg1FdQirZicySFKQpORCHdl_KoiUas_tu1xx5Na9mTBoNngYoomowZvYZuYOu3qBLT1AoJ0BGX9iYuzM740UlHAB0pp5stxtHA6Qf4AUdBWc5Fz9Ap7RAhv3pPmcfavDLJM7wTUTOl3T0ZfkI.1LA-Khq_abzcRCUajXOziJbY-VK_2SuQlemyuoJT-GE&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=the+safe+keep&amp;qid=1751730370&amp;s=books&amp;sprefix=the+safe+keep%2Cstripbooks%2C206&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Safe Keep</a>. A psychological thriller mixed with erotica, revenge and a subtle incisive angle on Hitler&#8217;s war, <em>The Safe Keep</em> captivated me from the get-go. I&#8217;m not the only one. The book won the <a href="https://womensprize.com/prizes/womens-prize-for-fiction/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Women’s Prize for Fiction</a>, as well as was shortlisted for the Booker Prize in 2024. Only six books made the shortlist, and this was the first time a Dutch author was chosen. <em>The Safe Keep</em> was named a best book of 2024 by the New York Times, the Washington Post, LA Times Time Magazine, the Economist, the Sunday Times and a host of others. In short, it&#8217;s worth a read.</p>
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<p class="Script">Think Daphne de Moyer&#8217;s, <em>Rebecca</em> or Ian McEwan’s <em>Atonement</em> with a twist. The 258-page novel centres on a nearly 30-year-old woman named Isabel, living in a small town in the eastern part of the Netherlands. It&#8217;s 1961, sixteen years after the end of WWII. Isabelle is a recluse taking care of the house that she and her two brothers and late mother fled to during the war.</p>
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<p class="Script">Isabel has no friends, no life really. Her weeks consist of mundane errands -going to the butcher, the baker, visiting her banker to see about her allowance. She has two brothers, Henrik and Louis who left home years ago and who rarely visit. She resents them for their carefree life while she dutifully maintains the house, and everything in it from the crockery to the curtains. Her younger brother Henrik fled as a teenager when their rigid cold mother disapproved of his sexuality. He lives with his Algerian boyfriend, Sebastian.</p>
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<p class="Script">And the older brother Louis  is a bit of a womanizer, falling in and out of love easily. Most annoying to Isabel, Louis is set to inherit the house once he marries and settles down.</p>
<p class="Script">Isabel&#8217;s world is upended when Louis brings his latest girlfriend, Ava, to live at the house, one long hot summer while he travels on a work project.</p>
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<p class="Script">Isabelle can&#8217;t stand Ava. Her badly dyed hair, her sloppy ways, getting up late, going to bed late, the way she touches everything in the house and asks so many questions. Who is this annoying woman? And then Isabel starts to suspect Ava of stealing. A teaspoon has gone missing, then a plate, she becomes obsessed watching Ava&#8217;s every move.</p>
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<p class="Script">And that&#8217;s just part one in a three-part book. Below is an edited, condensed version of our conversation. You can listen to the full interview <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/p/demystifying-the-magic-with-yael" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> on my podcast<a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/podcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> Elena Meets the Author</a>.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Yael, welcome to the show. I&#8217;m so glad you could make it.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Yael:</b> Oh, I&#8217;m thrilled to be here. That was a great introduction. I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;ve been able to summarize the book better than that., so I might steal parts of it.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Very funny. I read that you wrote this book in just six months, that the idea for the novel came to you between two family funerals in the Netherlands. Can you tell us where the seed to the novel started at and your process of writing the Safe Keep? Had the ideas been percolating for a while?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I went to two funerals and in between them, I looked out over the fields and the idea came to me. When I was a kid, what I would do when I couldn&#8217;t fall asleep is I would do mind theatre. I would imagine putting the VCR on and pressing play on my favorite Disney movie. And then I would just play the whole movie in my head from beginning to end, or as far as I could get before falling asleep. I would do this every single night. Most often it was <i>101 Dalmatians</i>.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Great movie</p>
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<p class="Script">I would just go into the latest scene of a movie or a story that I made up myself and disappear into that. And I think that&#8217;s something I reached for in the grief between the two funerals.</p>
<p class="Script">I think I was looking for a story that would distract me wholly. And the idea of Isabel and the house and a stranger coming in took hold of me. The truth is that the themes have been percolating for years. The frustration I&#8217;d felt with how the Dutch memorialize their history but also questions of complicity and culpability throughout history. These are conversations that I&#8217;ve been having for years and years and years as an academic, but also as a reader. And then all of it came together quickly after that,</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> So, when you moved to Holland from Israel, how old were you?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">I was 10. My father is Dutch. Hence my last name.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>What was your experience as a Jewish person moving from Israel to the Netherlands?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">At this moment in time, I hesitate to talk about my childhood experiences. because I&#8217;m always afraid that it&#8217;s going to be taken out of context or seen in the wrong light when I compare Israel to the Netherlands.  I hesitate to speak of Israel with any kind of nostalgia, especially in this current climate because I do want to be careful of creating nostalgia around Israel and its politics.</p>
<p class="Script">(Having said that), there was an intense cultural backlash moving to a part of a country where I was one of a handful of Jewish children, I think maybe max five, and I mean, the other ones were my sisters and cousins.</p>
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<p class="Script">I experienced quite a lot of strange, funny, but also painful, antisemitic moments there. I have this one memory of walking across the playground, just outside of high school, and this girl and this guy, they were just hardcore making out. They were just going for it. Leaning against the bike rack. And then the girl removes the guy&#8217;s face from her face, like you can almost hear the smooching sound of it, and she shouts across the yard, in Dutch…. ‘Are you that Jew girl?’</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Wow. What did you say?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">You say yes, and then you keep walking. There were more intense moments of children who I believe didn&#8217;t quite know what they were doing or had decided to be edgy, and would carve swastikas into lockers or tables, or would draw cartoons of me and then slip them so I could see them.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Right.</p>
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<p class="Script">Not only did I go from a place where I didn&#8217;t have to think much about my identity as a Jewish person to but suddenly, I had to also explain that identity to a community who’s only understanding of Jewishness was the Holocaust or Anne Frank or from antisemitic tropes, the bread and butter of Dutch storytelling sometimes.</p>
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<p class="Script">It was a whiplash in many ways, going from knowing a language and knowing your friends to trying to figure out how popularity works in a place where you don&#8217;t understand the cultural conventions.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>You set your novel in 1961. Why?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I grew up in a time and space where the war was absolutely and completely over, and yet it kept on creeping up in strange ways. In anecdotes, in conversations, in remnants in the city where Jews lived or at the synagogue where they used to worship. These places had either been reshaped or emptied out. And in the Dutch language there&#8217;s remnants of Yiddish from the people who used to speak Yiddish.</p>
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<p class="Script"> I felt like I grew up in a post-war environment, but the ghost of the war was always present. It  was me. I was the ghost, the person who reminded people. I wanted to place the novel in 1961 because I wanted to explore that.</p>
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<p class="Script">I think also we have an association with the sixties. We have this idea it&#8217;s the era of liberation, excess, creating a new identity that isn&#8217;t overshadowed by the war.</p>
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<p class="Script">And then to then follow a character Isabel who knows no excess and no liberation, and then to slowly pull her apart seemed fascinating to me.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> Yeah, that was very good. Did you really write the book in six months?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I did.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Amazing.</p>
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<p class="Script">This is what I always say to my students. You must remember, before this novel came, there were many others that were not written in six months and never saw the light of day. And it&#8217;s not that I woke up one day and thought ‘I want to be a writer’. Let&#8217;s see what I can do. And then sat behind the computer and it rolled out of me. Years and years of attempting. I&#8217;d never sent anything out because I was never satisfied with anything I&#8217;d written so far. When the idea for the Safe Keep came to me, I was writing a different novel, and it felt terrible. I felt like I was cheating on the other novel.</p>
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<p class="Script">Also, the six month (was preceded by) four months creating the outlines, putting the plot together. A lot of people have asked me about whether I just started writing and saw where it took me.</p>
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<p class="Script"> The thought of that makes me want to sweat. It makes me so nervous. The idea of starting to write without knowing where I&#8217;m going to go. I&#8217;m an intense planner when it comes to writing. Not only did I have outlines upon outlines, I had color-coded flashcards.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Wow.</p>
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<p class="Script"> I wanted to create as much scaffolding as possible, including bits of dialogue, bits of movement. I already had certain scenes a little bit written out, so by the time that I started writing, it was basically just colouring in (the story).</p>
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<p class="Script">When I write, I don&#8217;t want to think about the plot so that I can immerse myself in the language I want, the cadence, the rhythm. I create the plot and the outlining so I can experiment with language.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> So, you&#8217;re free?</p>
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<p class="Script">  I&#8217;m free of the plot. Yes</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Can you tell us a bit about Isabel&#8217;s conflicted relationship with her two brothers, Henrik and Louis.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">Of course. Henrik left the house when he was 16. His mother found out about his affair with a piano teacher, and she gave him an ultimatum: Stay here and never do this again or leave. Of course, he left. He rebuilds his relationship with Isabel eventually, but Isabel will always. associate his love life with abandonment.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Mm.</p>
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<p class="Script"> Her brother desired something and that something was more important to him than staying there with her, him keeping her company, being loyal to her.</p>
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<p class="Script">Andbon the other hand, we have Louis the oldest who has never really understood Isabel, has never given her a lot of attention or time. He too has this habit of putting his love life first. He always has a new girlfriend, and he always brings her no matter what.</p>
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<p class="Script">He doesn&#8217;t quite consider the sensitivity of a situation, the nuance of it. For example, he brings a random girlfriend with him to his mother&#8217;s funeral.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> I loved that detail.</p>
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<p class="Script"> Isabel is annoyed with it because now that girlfriend is in all the pictures, and no one even remembers her name. So, through her brothers, Isabel associates love and sexuality with selfishness and abandonment. And she tries to rebuild the sibling relationship by instituting these monthly or bi-monthly dinners.</p>
<p class="Script">But each time that they meet up, it seems to reaffirm to her how self-involved her siblings are, and how she&#8217;s the only one who truly cares about what matters, the house and their mother&#8217;s legacy. Of course, when she then comes to find her own desire, she has to work through a lot of those feelings herself to be able to justify that for herself.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena</b>:<strong>  Was it easy for you to write suspense or did you have to go back and edit out things to make it sparer?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">Yes. I love writing suspense.  I love trying to figure out what creates tension and what breaks tension, especially with a voice like Isabel who&#8217;s not allowed to have any self-reflection. If she had the ability to think about her actions, or her desire or interiority in any way, this book could not have existed, right?</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> True</p>
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<p class="Script"> There would&#8217;ve been no tension. So, I needed to create a voice for Isabel where she didn&#8217;t have access to herself, and we as readers don&#8217;t have access to her.</p>
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<p class="Script">I would write some dialogue and then be like, oh no, she understands too much. I would go back and have to edit a lot of it away or create these half thoughts, these unfinished thoughts.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> exactly</p>
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<p class="Script">She doesn&#8217;t only halt continuously when she speaks, but also in her internal monologues. In some of the scenes that we see through her eyes, the knowledge is constantly hinted at and taken away. And this is also how Dutch society works. You are given hints of something, and it&#8217;s taken away, and you&#8217;re not encouraged to think about it too much.</p>
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<p class="Script">It&#8217;s just snatches of realization that are then taken away. It was very interesting indeed to see what creates tension and what releases tension and when I needed to really pull it as tight as possible. But you cannot go on with high tension forever. You need to have moments of relaxation or hope or something else. And to see exactly how much I could make sure that you do want to continue reading, that you don&#8217;t get tired of the heightened emotion of it all.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>As you&#8217;re writing the book, are you thinking of it a bit like a film?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Now we&#8217;re back to <i>101 Dalmations</i>. My parents both worked in film.  Before I knew how to write, my parents had taught me how to make little animations, like in book margins. The pages taught me how to do a storyboard because if I wanted to make an animation, I had to think beforehand. It’s not like a drawing or a painting, you have to think of your character and movement. I’m an avid film lover too.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <b>What would you like readers to take away from this book?</b></p>
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<p class="Script"> I wrote this book for myself. I was thinking a lot about what I wanted from society and what I was unhappy with. And it came from a place of feeling undesired. At the heart of prejudice, marginalization, and looking away from suffering is indifference.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Mmmm.</p>
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<p class="Script"> And the opposite of indifference isn&#8217;t tolerance or isn&#8217;t charity, it&#8217;s desire, saying, I was indifferent to you, I was repulsed by you even, and now I desire you. I wanted to take a character from beginning to end and see how she could start with indifference or repulsion even and bring her slowly step by step into desire.</p>
<p class="Script">I wanted it to end on this idea that there are  little steps that we might find ourselves (doing) as part of a prejudicial system. It’s these tiny little moments of indifference and thoughtless action that slowly take us  into a place where we are complicit. We are part of a larger evil. And I wanted to chip at that system just a little bit. So, I think, if readers take away anything, it&#8217;ll be that. Find desire where you did not expect desire.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Well, thank you Yael. I know we&#8217;re out of time. Thank you so much. I really appreciate your making the time.</p>
<p><em>July, 2025</em></p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p> I met with Rochelle Weinstein, best-selling author of seven women&#8217;s fiction novels, including This Is Not How It Ends. Rochelle&#8217;s eighth novel, We Are Made of Stars, which releases on February 25th, is a romantic suspenseful page turner. It&#8217;s got everything. Characters who are hiding things, bad decisions, flawed people who love each other, betrayal...</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="font-weight: 400;"> I met with Rochelle Weinstein, best-selling author of seven women&#8217;s fiction novels, including <a href="https://www.amazon.com/This-Not-Ends-Rochelle-Weinstein-ebook/dp/B07NCY8CXD/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1IU3PBEYKED16&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.GgoHWfXV0g4MO6kVz13DIg.CxyDHXHxyt7sUHG151YAkgUA42S1jdo9cvGxRqW25wc&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=this+is+not+how+it+endsrochelle+b.+weinstein&amp;qid=1740161301&amp;sprefix=this+is+not+how+it+enrochelle+b.+weinstein%2Caps%2C256&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">This Is Not How It Ends.</a> Rochelle&#8217;s eighth novel, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/We-Are-Made-Stars-Novel-ebook/dp/B0D1L16C5Q/ref=sr_1_1?crid=8M56AVE4KZLJ&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.HROGm7nHEXzOuZFFxpG_fQ.XbXtSy1xMCONPLqrQ3F6X3x3ZCTwLj98eOo6oXkWwhc&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=we+are+made+of+stars+rochelle+b.+weinstein&amp;qid=1740161249&amp;sprefix=we+are+made+%2Caps%2C267&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">We Are Made of Stars</a>, which releases on February 25<sup>th</sup>, is a romantic suspenseful page turner. It&#8217;s got everything. Characters who are hiding things, bad decisions, flawed people who love each other, betrayal and redemption, all taking place in an idyllic, magical inn in North Carolina.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Not only did I feel like I was on a vacation at this sumptuous inn, but the complex characters plus distinct back stories pulled me in. I liked watching their dramas unfold, building to a page turning emotional climax.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">A little background: Renée and Jean-Paul De La Rue face the daunting decision to close their beloved inn Vis Ta Vie for good. Meanwhile their 8 guests are facing their own struggles. Three couples are in crisis: Hollywood celebs, Leo and Penny, are spending their silver anniversary together while on the cusp of divorce.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Lucy, a practical minded therapist, and Henry, an astronomer with his head in the stars, are on the rocks. And former lawyer, now stay at home mother, Sienna, and dynamic sports agent, Adam, look perfect, but looks can be deceiving.  Add finally, self-absorbed single mother Cassidy and her sulky 15-year-old daughter, Rosalie are barely speaking.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Below are some edited highlights from my conversation with Rochelle. You can listen to the full episode <a href="https://open.substack.com/pub/elenabowes/p/exploring-the-depths-of-womens-fiction?r=huv3q&amp;utm_campaign=post&amp;utm_medium=web&amp;showWelcomeOnShare=true" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> on my podcast Elena Meets the Author available wherever you listen to podcasts.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>Rochelle, before we get into your book, can you tell us how you went from being a secret writer into a somewhat prolific one with eight books out there.</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> Well, first, thank you, Elena, for having me. It&#8217;s a pleasure to be here. I was laughing when you were listing all the characters, because I&#8217;m like, Oh my God, how did I write all these characters and keep up with it?</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I was always a writer, a secretive journal writer back in the day. I was also a huge reader. I used to steal my mother&#8217;s Sidney Sheldon, Danielle Steele. I was reading those books when I was  about 10 years old.  I like to say that they raised me in a way. They were my salvation. They were healing for me. My parents were divorced at the time, so there were some lonely times.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">And I felt such refuge in books. At the same time, I was the journal writer, and I never had the courage or the self-confidence to put any type of writing out in the world.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">My career path went an entirely different way. I was in the music business in South Beach in Miami and the company was bought and moved to New York City. I had just had twin boys. I&#8217;d always worked since the age of 14 and I felt I was at this career crossroads.  I always felt that I had a story to tell.  I literally sat down, wrote 110, 000 words of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/What-Leave-Behind-Rochelle-Weinstein-ebook/dp/B007GEJTZK/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3BWJWTSQAQCBB&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.h5eHxog8arsONnqPPTbMXbyipbpL5sovPVwotNyT3JcrcGr7OlyIxW5FUhExHSv-jRpbs7hD0rB1O9g6opKtlg.EyeUuX7DXUM2d9cBvtgj9ecow11JbWyy0MDzn_VY8ag&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=what+we+leave+behind+rochelle+weinstein&amp;qid=1740070636&amp;sprefix=what+we+leave+behind+rochelle%2Caps%2C298&amp;sr=8-1">What We Leave Behind</a> and that was the start of a career. It was a lark that turned into something bigger than I had expected.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>Wow. Did you have that story percolating for a while?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> There’s a lot of fiction and non-fiction in my first novel. A lot of it is my own self-discovery and the way I dealt with my parents’ divorce, the way I dealt with the men in my life and what I learned from years of work on myself.  I had a message that I really wanted to share with the world, and I felt like I could help other young women navigate through loss, insecurity and abandonment.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">And I just basically fictionalized all these deep feelings into a story, and I made it entertaining</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>Of these eight books you’ve written, is there a common theme or thread to all of them?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> There’s always some type of loss and resiliency, some emotional depth. There&#8217;s always a grey area. I like to explore the grey area.  I&#8217;m not a very black and white person. I see things in the shades of grey. I like to portray stories where we can see all sides and be able to show a little bit more compassion for the people around us.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>I read that the working title of this book was The Inn, and you described it as The Big Chill meets Nine Perfect Strangers. Can you elaborate on that?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> It&#8217;s so funny because as the iterations of this book have developed, now I like to say my elevator pitch is, One Week in Summer, Eight Lives Forever Changed. Think White Lotus Meets Virgin River.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena: How did you choose to set the novel in North Carolina?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> I live in South Florida, and we spent our summers in the mountains of North Carolina, starting at the age of four, when my single mom was head of Girls Hill, a sleepaway camp in Hendersonville, North Carolina.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">And I lived for these summers in the mountains, the smell, the scenery. I&#8217;m a nature girl at heart. So fast forward, I got married, we had kids, we would take our kids to the mountains of North Carolina. We have a place that we go to in the summers in Beach Mountain.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">And nearby there&#8217;s this inn called the Inn at Little Pond Farm. And the inn in my novel is based entirely on the inn at Little Pond Farm.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">They had a communal table, which only seated ten people, and you could end up talking to complete strangers while the gourmet chef would cook a five-course meal for you.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">What&#8217;s so incredible are the seeds that are planted at this table when you&#8217;re with strangers. I was fascinated by the interactions between the strangers and what you could learn, what you could find out about people, the people who didn&#8217;t like each other. I decided that I needed to write a story about the dynamics of this table. I felt like the table was just such a great starting point for a story.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>One of your character’s loves astronomy? Is that something you&#8217;re interested in?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> Not at all.  I did some research on that. Carl Sagan says we all come from stars and from stardust. I felt like the table was a metaphor for the sun.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">And the characters were the stars orbiting the sun. They gravitated around this piece, and it connected them or it exploded around them. I viewed the whole star piece as just a metaphor for these relationships.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>I&#8217;m wondering if there were certain characters that appeared to you from the very beginning.</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> This idea has been percolating for a while. So, when I sat down to finally write it, I knew these were my characters. I knew I wanted to do a mother daughter dynamic. I knew I wanted couples who were best friends from college, reliving their youth at the inn.  I knew I wanted some celebrity to shake things up. And I knew I wanted to have the Renee and Paul, the owners.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I stapled six giant poster boards together and cut out pictures of celebrities from People Magazine. I&#8217;m very visual and I need to just see somebody to describe a face, the curvature of their chin. I had index cards for each day and each character had their arc and their goal for a specific scene. I had to see it visually.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>Were these characters modelled after movie stars? Did you have a picture of a movie star for Leo?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> The characters that I pulled out of People magazine three or four years ago are different than who I would have envisioned today. Leo was Rob Lowe. And I had Blake Lively as Sienna, but now seeing all her troubles, I think people might not be thrilled to see Blake Lively.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong>, <strong>Did you have a particular fondness for any of the characters?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> People ask who&#8217;s your favourite character. Which is your favourite book? That&#8217;s like asking who’s your favourite child. But I loved writing Rosalie. There&#8217;s something about writing young girls. Something really pivotal must have happened to me at the age of 15.  I&#8217;m stuck in this youthful 15-year-old girl&#8217;s body and voice.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I also loved writing, Penny and Leo.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong>? <strong>Is there a particular scene that you really loved writing?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> I loved the unpeeling of the onion at the table. I loved the last scene of the book. I loved Sienna and Lucy in the wine cellar. The scenes that are the most emotionally charged, I loved so much.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>At one point in the story, Penny, who has been married for 25 years to the Hollywood celebrity Leo, gives some advice to a younger couple who are having marital problems. She says, if there&#8217;s one thing you should focus on, it&#8217;s not whether you love this person, because the answer is yes. The real question is, can you live without this person? And if you can&#8217;t live without them, then do everything in your power to fix it. I thought that was a very wise piece of advice.</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> Sometimes I wonder where (these nuggets) came from. It&#8217;s been a while since I wrote that book. You know, you get so deep into your characters, and I felt that that was something that Penny would have said, given her history with Leo.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> Yeah,</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> Like you really get into character.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>Might you ever write a sequel? I thought there were certain characters we’re invested in and we’re not sure what’s going to happen to them.</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> Never say never. None of my books are part of a series, they&#8217;re all standalones. This one definitely lends itself to that more.  I turned in my ninth book two Fridays ago. All I can say is it&#8217;s an epic love story</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>Oh, wow. You write a book in a year?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Rochelle: I&#8217;ve been writing a book a year, but I&#8217;m going to slow down.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>You clearly have tons of ideas. Do you write them down as they come to you?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> Yes. I have a file folder called book ideas. And I actually have synopses for books ten and eleven.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena:</strong> <strong>Amazing.  I know that you recommend books for the local NBC affiliate and for some magazines. What books are you recommending?</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle: </strong>Nicola Kraus has a new book coming out <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Best-We-Could-Hope-Novel/dp/1662522649/ref=sr_1_1?crid=10Y4TORDFW716&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.oWVTn9HMqGYV2pc1MPXBIvdzX-bOOGDZEOGYyeNthU8.n0KoWhTZ8ifZ53Kfd0jml6UaUav3QvEgpzsJuY47pog&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=the+best+we+could+hope+for+nicola+kraus&amp;qid=1740072114&amp;sprefix=the+best+we+%2Caps%2C226&amp;sr=8-1">The Best We Could Hope For</a>.  And I&#8217;m excited about Jackie Friedland&#8217;s <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Counting-Backwards-Novel-Jacqueline-Friedland/dp/1400347300/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1A0GRQQD4HLP9&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.alR696Y1hkKUFZSuGq0Fb4yXbnkXhuOzb6Qb5z6c6DHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.xtPS63rZzq5K5G0aczp-Uue-5qelF1EnTz_i88o1Wvo&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=counting+backwards+jacqueline+friedland&amp;qid=1740071869&amp;sprefix=counting+backwards%2Caps%2C262&amp;sr=8-1">Counting Backwards</a> That&#8217;s on my night table There&#8217;s obviously, the Queen, Annabelle Monaghan, I can&#8217;t wait until her new book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Its-Love-Story-Annabel-Monaghan/dp/0593714105/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2JKWA9ULNL2SK&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.IuXY0180N2iNsVrkzqCwhCkZ8lVylYD-FaqkSzyybuUvXnCyaU2d9yC_Lkyj9-AeBOIJEkJDExY4OufNcU4UkasDBPBnspDeR-KDZn9dd_BvtY6_1vBboFpetTFhd9OV8_jneZvK8kSem5boATpzm_M9XYyDbEDDXWskkGeRhL5USFvT9mbLJ8AxBa66iGVW1kPOWRIR7gCtFLSy_Bq1ZCxFVVIDWm33QCR2EB2UhhQ.tHztBUHICXHf42N-89rTJMeNgkegsq3puuauTejjn48&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=annabelle+monaghan+books&amp;qid=1740072170&amp;sprefix=anabel+mo%2Caps%2C233&amp;sr=8-3">It’s a Love Story</a> comes out. I read it and it&#8217;s of course amazing.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Elena: </strong>She&#8217;s great. I&#8217;m interviewing her in May. I think that&#8217;s it for my questions<strong>. </strong>Thank you, and good luck with all your writing.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Rochelle:</strong> Thank you, Elena. I appreciate it. It was a pleasure talking to you.</p>
<p><em>February, 2025</em></p>
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		<title>Highlights from My Chat with Anastasia Rubis, author of Oriana</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p> I spoke with Anastasia Rubis, who goes by Stacy, the author of Oriana, a wonderful moving novel about the trailblazing Italian journalist, Oriana Fallaci. Oriana was an international superstar, arguably the best journalist in the world in the 1960s and 70s. She was a woman in a man&#8217;s world, which makes her accomplishments that much...</p>
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<p class="Script"> I spoke with Anastasia Rubis, who goes by Stacy, the author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Audible-Oriana-Novel-Fallaci/dp/B0DJRMDB9K/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2TFSGVWFE82ZU&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-lTu5vuVz6ByZxAzNLUwWOC0g718cxtJja-gaDngHMTuw43ypjD4_yYLciwvnAnmjpI_xK1Q5jxby1cJIZPj5NYGNif5SnwhVJcpQdzGCqWzua0CoJS8xvN4TnSAYG6ecaQYt7xaMszH0Rdoi8YAqkzIPQjU35n5we5xLkxzpt-RieqHcSkzZhyy44uIdFvElZx5s_cmNX-DTPxHHpzz17jYPYmpF8Q9G64SPv_nWkQ.pVymv7QXXJA8cNwscRFGLTdoZALA7mE4P5lXb9xptWk&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=oriana&amp;qid=1739133132&amp;sprefix=oriana%2Caps%2C108&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Oriana</a>, a wonderful moving novel about the trailblazing Italian journalist, Oriana Fallaci. Oriana was an international superstar, arguably the best journalist in the world in the 1960s and 70s. She was a woman in a man&#8217;s world, which makes her accomplishments that much more impressive.</p>
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<p class="Script">For some reason, Oriana is not as well known in the States as she is in Europe, which hopefully will change with Stacy&#8217;s debut novel. Christiane Amanpour said Oriana&#8217;s penetrative, fearless interviews with world leaders, as well as celebrities of the day, should be required reading for all journalism students.</p>
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<p class="Script">I&#8217;ll be honest, when I started the book, I worried that it would be too dry, too intellectual for me. But Oriana was anything but dry. She was fiery, feisty, quick witted, extremely intelligent, a romantic, passionate, not to mention attractive and glamorous. I was soon swept away by the humanity in Oriana&#8217;s take on the world.</p>
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<p class="Script">Below are some edited highlights from my conversation with Stacy Rubis. You can listen to the entire episode <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/p/elena-meets-anastasia-rubis?r=huv3q&amp;utm_campaign=post&amp;utm_medium=web&amp;triedRedirect=true" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> on <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/podcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Elena Meets the Author</a> or wherever you listen to podcasts.</p>
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<h1>Oriana&#8217;s Fearless Interview Style</h1>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:  Hello Stacy. I loved your book. I was just so impressed how fearless Oriana was when interviewing leaders of the day. </b></p>
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<p class="Script"> Exactly. My favorite quote of hers is, ‘I&#8217;m not intimidated by anybody.’ She interviewed Colonel Qaddafi, the Ayatollah Khomeini, Yasser Arafat amongst others. These are people with guns and guards in the room. They&#8217;re dictators and she just goes for it.</p>
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<p class="Script">She asks the most provocative, persistent, impolite questions and she&#8217;s not afraid to do that and I find that amazing.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena: I have a quote from you where you talk about your favorite Oriana lines:  ‘You must be joking’ to a dictator who lied in answer to her question. There were armed guards in the room. And she prodded Gaddafi, “You don&#8217;t remember? You should. And also to Gaddafi, “I want to understand why everyone dislikes you so much.” To Kissinger, “Unless I&#8217;m mistaken, you&#8217;re a very cold man, Dr. Kissinger.&#8221; Do you have a favorite interview?</b></p>
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<p class="Script"> The Kissinger one, but also, I really love the  interview with the then prime minister of Israel, Golda Meir. Golda and Oriana really hit it off. Oriana really respected Golda. She met Golda in her home in Tel Aviv. It was a very simple home. The housekeeper had gone home. Golda served coffee and cookies and washed her own dishes. They had a serious conversation about peace in the Middle East, but then Golda opened up to Oriana as a woman about the heartbreak of her life. And it was basically that Golda was in love with the same man from the age of 15, and they married, and they had children, but Golda really wanted a bigger life on the world stage, and he wanted a quieter life.</p>
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<p class="Script">And so that led to their separation. But Golda told Oriana that she loved him until the day he died. And I think that Oriana understood from Golda that sometimes love is not enough. That for a woman who has ambition, it’s really hard to make it work. And I think Oriana was already experiencing that in her own life, to meld the professional and the personal.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <b>That was great aspect to your book, the conflict Oriana had forever, that she was this fantastic journalist, but she grew up knowing in Italy you had to be a wife and a mother, and take care of your husband, and have children, and no matter how successful she was, she didn&#8217;t have that.</b></p>
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<p class="Script"> She called it a full life that she wanted, which is family and a profession. She was born in 1929. So, she would be almost a hundred today and there weren&#8217;t many role models for women who were doing both. Succeeding at home, succeeding in the world. And that&#8217;s what I find so poignant about Oriana&#8217;s story. As tough as she was- she basically elbowed her way to the top of a male dominated field, she never went to university. she was born poor, she barely spoke English when she came to the United States &#8211; she made it to the point where Newsweek called her the greatest interviewer of her time. Dick Cavett introduced her on his show as a legend. She made it to the top, and yet, there was a price to pay for a woman of her generation.</p>
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<p class="Script">I find that incredibly poignant and that&#8217;s really what I wanted to be at the heart of my book. What I found surprising in doing events and talking about Oriana to people is that young women really relate to the novel. Which makes me happy in one way, but sad in another, because we are still dealing with the challenges that Oriana had, which are work life balance, reproductive rights, and sexism in the workplace. The fact that young women can still relate today really says something.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <b>As successful as the chain-smoking Oriana was, she struggled at love. She seemed to fall for the wrong men, men who were jealous of her success, until she met Alexander Panagoulis, a Greek poet and resistance fighter, ten years her junior.</b> <b>So, I&#8217;m guessing, that a lot of the fabulous love scenes in your book are drawn from <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Man-Oriana-fallaci/dp/0671252410/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1X53UPDO67K3J&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.3g20kSkivO7RaysG7G7ILGRrGifrlzctfEWOw7WSpD4FB3vLESlFH3_YQz-jX2kCBe2yC9Kt86zovmXEHOCId7dfVL9YkJqZv-9KDxvy7Ap12z1XmOvgD_TfoB8q8I5r7TZSVM21GxHXcHaKhqcDd5Ia12IosQeqiJYktN7aegjJTGDIo4-IvIKrNvhq3xsk.zeibm1q99qb4dpmvUfe9RTEalP77mE4nxUyskD9xYPU&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=a+man+oriana+fallaci&amp;qid=1739133172&amp;sprefix=a+man+oriana%2Caps%2C105&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">A Man, </a>Oriana’s book about Alexander?</b></p>
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<p class="Script"> The scenes are based on reality, but they&#8217;re fictionalized.  I&#8217;m a big romantic, and I think Oriana and Alexander is one of the greatest love stories that we don&#8217;t know.</p>
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<p class="Script">It has passion and politics. She was 10 years older than him. They lived in different countries. She was the powerful one in the couple. She was at the peak of her journalism profession when she met him, and he was just out of prison. He didn&#8217;t have a job. He didn&#8217;t have money.</p>
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<p class="Script">A couple of journalists have called the book sexy.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>The story is definitely sexy.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> It was an electric love affair, very charged. They had real values and ideals and were willing to give up a lot for those ideals. So, it&#8217;s very dramatic. Alexander is a real figure. He resisted Greece&#8217;s dictatorship from 1967 to 1974. He almost sacrificed his life to get rid of the dictator. He was thrown into jail, was tortured for five years and when he got out, he still didn&#8217;t stop and he was eventually elected to Parliament He decided to try to affect change from the inside. But his enemies assassinated him and made it look like a car accident.</p>
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<p class="Script">And so, again, a very dramatic, true story. Oriana loved him for those last three years that he was alive. They were together in Italy and in Greece. She calls him her great love. I think he reminded her a lot of her father who resisted Italy&#8217;s occupation and who fought for freedom and human rights and for the little people. And that was the same with Alexander.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Alexander wasn&#8217;t diminished by her success at all. He was so proud of her.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> In prison, he read her books. He said reading her books gave him the fire and the courage to stay alive in prison.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <b>And this is all before he even met her?</b></p>
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<p class="Script">Yes. So basically, he fell in love with her by reading her books, and then when he got out of prison, by some kismet, some universal coincidence, she decided to go interview him. So, she left Italy and went to Athens on his third day of freedom to interview him. She stole the assignment from somebody else at her newspaper.</p>
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<p class="Script">Somebody else was supposed to go to interview the Greek freedom fighter. And she&#8217;s like, no, I will go, and she did. And it was love at first sight.</p>
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<p>The post <a href="https://elenabowes.com/highlights-from-my-chat-with-anastasia-rubis-author-of-oriana/">Highlights from My Chat with Anastasia Rubis, author of Oriana</a> appeared first on <a href="https://elenabowes.com">Elena Bowes</a>.</p>
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		<title>Your Table Is Ready: Tales of a New York City Maître D&#8217; &#8211; Q&#038;A with Author Michael Cecchi-Azzolina</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I spoke with someone whose career has had him kicked, punched, sworn at. He&#8217;s had his life threatened. No, not a professional wrestler. For the past 40 years Michael Cecchi-Azzolina, has worked in several of Manhattan&#8217;s top restaurants … The Water Club, the River Cafe, Raoul&#8217;s, Minetta Tavern, and Le Cuckoo, to name a few....</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="Script">I spoke with someone whose career has had him kicked, punched, sworn at. He&#8217;s had his life threatened. No, not a professional wrestler. For the past 40 years Michael Cecchi-Azzolina, has worked in several of Manhattan&#8217;s top restaurants … The Water Club, the River Cafe, Raoul&#8217;s, Minetta Tavern, and Le Cuckoo, to name a few. He has worked as server, captain, manager, and maître d&#8217;, the works.</p>
<p class="Script">If you’ve ever wondered what working in a restaurant is really like, Michael&#8217;s memoir, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Your-Table-Ready-Tales-Ma%C3%AEtre/dp/1250325749/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1W4DFGD53WLLS&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.MqAJryafYCMchmNNiBVmkMKPmJctGxveY8bbe1yGGsRs1qh0330oIQgMPTpU3mquMNVbUQKjMDoJNBD6fv0rxXneruoNROJRwLWKPYm5iIdDgMv6M5y32OqO4tablgnEp20H34pebhkuzGXSavT_s7kSM7I8JxN1P7z5D7Z3joM.pSThxhtWT9hWJitKptpOXCbqfkMKbh3J8ViMR9lrmlI&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=your+table+is+ready+by+michael+cecchi-azzolina&amp;qid=1736866564&amp;sprefix=your+table%2Caps%2C99&amp;sr=8-1">Your Table is Ready: Tales of a New York City Maître D’ </a> give you a very good idea.  His book is the front of  house equivalent to Anthony Bourdain’s <em>Kitchen Confidential</em>…. <em>Your Table is Ready</em> describes the heady 1980’s, think of Michael Douglas in the movie <em>Wall Street</em>, Gordon Gekko, Greed is Good Days, before social media, before the Me Too movement when money, booze, cocaine, and sex flowed like tap water, Michael, a natural storyteller,  had a front row seat at both the good and the bad times in the city. He lost a lot of friends during the AIDS crisis, and 20 years later he lost beloved clients in 9-11. This is not a book for the faint of heart. A paragraph from his excellent introduction below:</p>
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<p class="Script">A well-run dining room is an art, a ballet, a confluence of pieces that come together to bring a guest a meal. Our guests come not just for sustenance, but to celebrate. Birthdays, anniversaries, a wedding, a death, a date. Friends getting together, the pursuit of sex, love. It&#8217;s all happening on any given night.</p>
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<p class="Script">And on any given night, most of my working life has been spent in this environment. I am just a piece in the show. For many years, restaurants enabled me artistically, socially, and sexually. I&#8217;ve met the loves of my life in restaurants, my greatest friends have worked alongside me, and many are still my friends, even though the name above the door has changed numerous times for us. I&#8217;ve had trysts, got naked, fucked, laughed, drank, drugged, puked, and shared the gamut of our human existence in restaurants. It&#8217;s now time to share these experiences, the people, the food, the insanity of the places so many of us take for granted.</p>
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<p class="Script">While Michael’s book gives a no holds barred look at what really went on in top NYC restaurants, his memoir is also a coming-of-age story from a New York City native who grew up in Bensonhurst, Brooklyn where the jobs available were in sanitation, the police force or the mob. Michael fled those chosen career paths for the glittering lights of Manhattan.</p>
<p class="Script"> I met Michael recently at his own chic and delicious restaurant, <a href="https://www.cecchis.nyc" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Cecchi’s</a>, in the West Village, which I highly recommend. In fact, I went back a second time, and hope to visit many more times. He knows exactly what makes a restaurant successful.  Below are a few highlights from our conversation. You can listen &#8211; and subscribe-  to the entire episode <a href="https://open.substack.com/pub/elenabowes/p/tales-from-the-front-a-new-york-city?r=huv3q&amp;utm_campaign=post&amp;utm_medium=web&amp;showWelcomeOnShare=true" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> on <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/podcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Elena Meets the Author</a> or wherever you listen to podcasts.</p>
<p class="Script"><strong>Elena: Michael, welcome to the show. It&#8217;s great to have you here.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">Thank you, Elena. It&#8217;s great to be here.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> You have so many choice stories in your book and the Brooklyn mobster accents that you do on the Audible version are impressive. It makes sense that you also had a career in acting. Let’s start off by talking about the genesis of your book. What made you decide to write it?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I had an acting career for many years. In fact, restaurants supported my theater habit. As an actor, you&#8217;re a storyteller. And when I was at restaurants and working, I told stories. I told stories about life. The wacky things that happened to me, to restaurants, to other guests.</p>
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<p class="Script">People have come in and people always said, well, you should write this down. So, 30 odd years later, I decided to write it down.  I was the maître d’ and manager  at Le Coucou. So, once the last table is seated, and there are a couple of nights a week I had to close the restaurant, I really had nothing to do.</p>
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<p class="Script">So, I&#8217;m standing there, and I figured, let me start writing. And I did. I went in the back and started typing away. And I got about 70 pages in and one of my guests, a known food writer, was walking out one day and I said, you know, I think I&#8217;m writing a book. Can I send it to you? And, let me know what you think.</p>
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<p class="Script">And he said, yeah, sure, of course. So, I did, and he sent it back a few days later with notes. And he said, you need to do this, this, and this. So I responded to the notes, and we had a back and forth for about three or four weeks.</p>
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<p class="Script">I probably wrote another hundred pages. Then he said, okay, that&#8217;s it. Stop bothering me. You&#8217;re a writer. Go finish your book. At that time, my young daughter was born. And I was working full time, I had a newborn, and I stopped writing.</p>
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<p class="Script">And about a year and a half later, COVID happens.  I lost my job. My wife, our daughter and I, and some family members went up to a farm in the middle of nowhere in upstate New York. And we&#8217;re up there, and while I&#8217;m up there, a former host of mine sends me an email from someone out in L.A. whose offering writing scholarships to any restaurant worker that&#8217;s a writer and happens to be unemployed. How&#8217;s that for a niche? So, I applied, for this writing scholarship, I got it, and it was a ten-week workshop where you had to commit to two hours in the morning and two hours at night.</p>
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<p class="Script">We met remotely two or three nights a week, we&#8217;d have these talks with other writers who were in the program. Probably about eight of us were doing it. I finish the ten-week program, and at the end of it, you get an evaluation. And I&#8217;m now at this farm in the middle of nowhere, the only, reception I got on my phone was in the middle of a cow field.</p>
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<p class="Script">So, I take a chair, and I trudge out to the middle of a cow field, I sit down. Phone rings, I get the evaluation, and it was very good. So, I hang up the phone, and I&#8217;m thinking, now what? The cows are looking at me, we&#8217;re in the middle of COVID, and my phone rings. And it&#8217;s a former customer of mine, calling to check in.</p>
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<p class="Script">How are you? What&#8217;s going on? What are you doing? And I say, you know, I&#8217;m well, broke, haven&#8217;t worked in a long time, but I  just finished a book. He said, What&#8217;s the book? I said, It&#8217;s a front of house kitchen confidential. He goes, Oh, that sounds interesting. I say, Well, if you happen to know any literary agents, let me know.</p>
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<p class="Script">He says, you know, I know a few. let me see what I can do for you. I hang up the phone. The next day I get an email from a literary agent saying I heard I should read your book. I send him the book. He writes back to me two weeks later. I love it. Stand by. Two weeks after that, he signed me. And then about a month later, we got a publishing deal. And the book came out. Well, it takes about a year. About a year later, the book came out.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>What a story. You make it sound so easy.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Honestly, I don&#8217;t tell this to writers, because I&#8217;m afraid they&#8217;ll kill me, because it&#8217;s so hard, but I guess people will hear this now. But it was (easy).</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Let’s discuss your childhood in Bensonhurst  and how serving at your uncle&#8217;s poker games and being an altar boy gave you a sense that maybe the restaurant business could be for you.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">When I started to write the book, I started thinking, how did I get into this business, how did I get to be a waiter?  I just started thinking, and I kind of always did it. I was an altar boy.  And when you&#8217;re an altar boy, you serve Mass. And what&#8217;s serving Mass? You assist the priest. You get the wine and the host, and you bring it out. And you get the linens, which are the tablecloths to cover the altar. And you polish the gold. You know? And you set up the cruets with the wine and the water and, you&#8217;re there and you&#8217;re serving. I thought, well, wow, my restaurant career really started in church.</p>
<p class="Script">I come from this very Italian Sicilian background neighbourhood and a lot of poker playing, booze drinking guys. On the weekends,  my mother played poker, and these guys would come over for poker games. They would come sit in the living room, and they&#8217;d be smoking cigarettes, and they&#8217;d be drinking, and I thought, I&#8217;d like to hang out with those guys.</p>
<p class="Script">It was kind of cool. I must have been six or seven years old, and I would change the ashtrays. If they needed a drink, I&#8217;d run in the kitchen, get them a drink, and there I was serving drinks and cleaning ashtrays, which, until no smoking happened in restaurants, is what you did. And so, I thought, that really was the genesis of it.</p>
<p class="Script">And I loved it. It was fun. It got me to be around all these really cool, though, albeit crazy people.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>And in the altar boy job, there was a little bit of skimming money off the plate?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">The neighbourhood  I grew up in, you had three paths in life, generally. You were sanitation, police, or mob. And the ethos of the time, whether you were sanitation, police, or the mob, was <u>get what you can</u>. <u>Take what you can get because no one&#8217;s going to give it to you.</u></p>
<p class="Script">This is the mentality. It was very tribal, and that&#8217;s what I grew up in. And so after mass, we&#8217;d sell the Catholic newspaper called The Tablet. it was ten cents a copy, and there we were, these cute altar boys, ten cents a copy, collecting the money, and then the money would come in, and we&#8217;d go back in the rectory, and we would take five dollars off the top to buy a nickel bag of pot.</p>
<p class="Script">And then we’d go sneak some wine, before the priest coud get it, because the bottle was already open. Actually we&#8217;d get six dollars, because five dollars was for the pot, and then we&#8217;d go get high behind the church, and then with the last dollar, we&#8217;d go to the luncheonette on the corner and get coffee and toast, because we were hungry.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Jumping ahead now to when you started out as a waiter in NYC, you talk about going to an interview with famed restaurateur Danny Meyer and he asks you what’s more important, the food or the service? At the time you didn&#8217;t know. But you learned quickly. W</strong><strong>hich is more important?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Service. You go to a restaurant for a meal, right? But you really don&#8217;t. You go to a restaurant for an experience. You go to celebrate a birthday, an anniversary, on a date, to find a date. You&#8217;re hungry, yes, but you go because you want to be around people.</p>
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<p class="Script">And that’s the experience. And the most successful restaurants, at least the ones that I know, when you walk in that door, your shoulders drop. And if it&#8217;s done right, you&#8217;re in a whole other mindset, You sit down, someone brings you a drink and you get your food, and if that goes seamlessly, it&#8217;s wonderful.</p>
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<p class="Script">And if things are great, and you love your server, and they come over and explain things, and your steak comes out, it&#8217;s well done, you&#8217;ll forgive a well-done steak.</p>
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<p class="Script">But if your server&#8217;s a jerk, or the person at the door ignores you, or the bartender&#8217;s not looking at you for ten minutes, things start off on a bad foot. And even if the food&#8217;s delicious, will you really want to go back? If they forgot your appetizers, or they forgot your partner&#8217;s drink, or it was a birthday, and they forgot the candle. You&#8217;re probably not going to go back.</p>
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<p class="Script">But if you get the service part right, and your food&#8217;s pretty good, you&#8217;re on your way to something successful.</p>
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<p><strong>You write about how the staff prepared for  restaurant critics and food inspectors. Tell us about that.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Both strike fear into the hearts of mortal men. Are you talking about Pete Wells?</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>yes</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">So Pete Wells, who is now retired, was the food critic for the New York Times. And for many years, the food critic for the New York Times was the most powerful person in the city because he could make or break a restaurant. That&#8217;s changed drastically since those days. But you want to get a good review. You want to spot Pete Wells. And Pete would come incognito, or use pseudonyms. One of the things that he would do is there would be a party of four and three guests would show up, asked to be seated, and then he would just come in like 20 minutes later and just sneak in and go find the table. But we really wanted to spot him. We were waiting for people. Look, you wait for the reviewers, right? And Stephen Starr , owner of Le Coucou, is a master restaurateur, but also he&#8217;s been doing this for many years.</p>
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<p class="Script">He hired people who&#8217;d be at the door who recognized every critic and food writer that ever walked through that door. We did not miss one person. Because you want to be ready. You don&#8217;t want the restaurant critic to come in and suddenly everyone&#8217;s having a bad night, and your worst server is at that station, and everything goes downhill. So, you want to be prepared for the best. There was a woman who worked the door, and pretty much knew all the aliases Pete Wells used, and some of the phone numbers, and, we were able to know when he was coming.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Didn&#8217;t you also leave a table empty for the critic?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> The day Le Coucou opened, we left the best table in the restaurant unseated, So, when a food writer or restaurant critic did come in, they got the best table in the restaurant. And that best table in the restaurant was always helmed by the best captain and the best server. And behind the desk there we had a fresh menu with a fresh wine list that was perfect. So, when they went down to the table, everything was perfect.</p>
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<p class="Script">And this is a very busy restaurant, right? Packed, packed. People waited a year for a reservation. People would be walking in and waiting for a table. Why can&#8217;t I sit there? Why can&#8217;t I sit at that table? Why is no one sitting at the table?</p>
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<p class="Script">And I would just say, I&#8217;m so sorry, it&#8217;s spoken for. And people would scream at you. Why, I&#8217;m waiting half an hour for a table. Why is that table open? It&#8217;s because it&#8217;s spoken for. I&#8217;m so sorry.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>You have to be so diplomatic. Food and health inspectors, that was another nightmare…</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Oh my God,  the worst. Look, it&#8217;s New York City, most of these spaces are old. We have a health code now that when Bloomberg was mayor, it became a letter grade. You had A, B, C, or D in your window, depending on the state of cleanliness of your restaurant.</p>
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<p class="Script">No one wants anything but an A. If you see a D on a restaurant window, you&#8217;re not walking in unless you&#8217;re starving. And there&#8217;s nothing else open. So, you really want that A. It’s a point system. You&#8217;re allowed 13 points of violations.</p>
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<p class="Script">And once you go past 13, that&#8217;s when the B begins. And then more points to C or D. Getting 13 points in a restaurant is pretty easy. When the restaurant inspector comes in everything stops because generally, in the kitchen especially, nothing is legal. You got a bunch of orders coming in and there&#8217;s three pieces of fish sitting waiting to go into a pan and you&#8217;ve got three burgers on the side there that you&#8217;re going to put on the grill and  that meat and fish is sitting out. They’re not in the refrigerator because you have to temper them. Once you temper them, it becomes an illegal temperature. So, the inspector comes in, puts his thermometer in there, and you fail. And a piece of meat that fails temperature is, I forget how many points, it&#8217;s a lot of points. And if there&#8217;s two pieces of meat out, you&#8217;ve blown your 13 points.</p>
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<p class="Script">So, when the DOH (Department of Health) comes in, we have a code word. And many restaurants have a word for whatever it is. <u>Tsunami </u>was one of the ones we used in a restaurant. And the host comes in, and the DOH person shows their badge. Thank you very much. And some places have buzzers at the front door that alerts the kitchen.</p>
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<p class="Script">Some say, okay, give me one second, turn, and the host will run back and tell everyone, tsunami, tsunami, tsunami. And you race through the restaurant to make sure everybody on the floor knows, the bar knows, the kitchen knows, that there&#8217;s a health inspector in the restaurant.</p>
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<p class="Script">Now, some inspectors will stop there at reception and put their paperwork together, and some will just walk straight through and go into the kitchen. So as they&#8217;re coming, when you hear Tsunami, the first thing kitchen staff do in the kitchen with those burgers and fish, they throw them out. In the refrigerator, all your dairy products, anything in the refrigerator, the doors are opening and closing, you can&#8217;t keep them at the required temperature so all that gets thrown out. Your bar garnishes, those are never at the right temperature. They all get thrown out. You throw everything out. So, all those people waiting for their orders, their food is now in the garbage, and we&#8217;re not going to cook a thing until that inspector leaves, because once that fish is up there, if the inspector&#8217;s thermometer comes out, we&#8217;re in trouble.</p>
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<p class="Script">And restaurants in New York, there are mice. There are roaches. Every single, brand-new restaurant has mice and roaches. And if there&#8217;s one little speck of mouse poop on the floor, no matter how clean you are, how many exterminators you have, that&#8217;s a violation. So, when they come through the door, it&#8217;s a disaster.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong> It&#8217;s a tough business, what you need to do to survive.  My last question, you say that up to 90% of restaurants fail within the first five years.  And yet you opened Ceccchi’s in 2023. So, what was your thinking on that?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> What was my thinking? I was in quarantine. I wrote a book, the book got published and I was done. I wasn&#8217;t going to come back and work for anybody. I tried to open something before, but everything was too expensive. It just didn&#8217;t make any sense. The rents were too high, and you couldn’t make ends meet.</p>
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<p class="Script">My older daughter said, what are you going to do now, Dad? And I said, nothing. And she says, no, you have to open Cecchi’s. And I said, oh, Jesus Christ. And so, I thought about it and slept on it.</p>
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<p class="Script">And a lot of restaurants had gone out of business during Covid, and no one knew what was going to happen. So, there were a lot of deals to be had. I thought, okay, I&#8217;m going to do it. And I found a spot that I fell in love with at a very good price because of the pandemic.</p>
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<p class="Script">I saw that in covid when people sat outside in 20-degree (Fahrenheit) weather because they wanted to support restaurants, they wanted to see other people, I saw that people will come back to restaurants. I didn&#8217;t know to what extent. I knew the fact that I&#8217;ve done this for a long time, I&#8217;m not an unknown entity that people would probably come to the restaurant. So, I felt pretty good about it. I didn&#8217;t know we would do as well as we&#8217;re doing now. And that&#8217;s a whole other story. But we&#8217;re doing very well.</p>
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<p class="Script">But it&#8217;s a risk. It&#8217;s an absolute risk. It&#8217;s hard.  And a lot of people go into the business, not knowing what they&#8217;re doing. I&#8217;m here every day. I was here every day for 7 months, 7 days a week. You&#8217;re talking 15, 18-hour days. Because I wanted this to be right.</p>
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<p class="Script">I now take off weekends. But I&#8217;m still here Monday through Friday. Start at 8 in the morning, finish at 11 at night. Because you gotta watch what you&#8217;re doing. You gotta know what you&#8217;re doing. You have to know your customers. You have to know your staff. We haven&#8217;t changed staff almost in a year and a half since we opened. It&#8217;s the same staff, which is remarkable, but because we&#8217;ve created this spot that is welcoming to them. They&#8217;re treated well, customers love them, it&#8217;s good.</p>
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<p><strong>You&#8217;ve definitely cracked it. It was bold to open, but I&#8217;m so glad you did because your restaurant is great. The design, the lighting, the food, my martini- everything was great. It&#8217;s like theatre.</strong></p>
<blockquote><p>It is theatre. You open the door and the show&#8217;s on.</p></blockquote>
<p><em>January, 2025</em></p>
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