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		<title>Q&#038;A w the Talented Yael van der Wouden</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I spoke with fantastic writer Yael van der Wouden about her award-winning debut novel The Safe Keep. A psychological thriller mixed with erotica, revenge and a subtle incisive angle on Hitler&#8217;s war, The Safe Keep captivated me from the get-go. I&#8217;m not the only one. The book won the Women’s Prize for Fiction, as well...</p>
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<p class="Script">I spoke with fantastic writer Yael van der Wouden about her award-winning debut novel <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Safekeep-Yael-van-Wouden-ebook/dp/B0CL5F4B19/ref=sr_1_1?crid=5RBP25HT1X4B&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.0v9gWogxhybWiglppqHY7pAx7qi1mhd22HTO6Lb0qsVMtKmsMezsKUF6VOHbR4XmZElKPi07415xmkNr6WCK3_tVBnwg1FdQirZicySFKQpORCHdl_KoiUas_tu1xx5Na9mTBoNngYoomowZvYZuYOu3qBLT1AoJ0BGX9iYuzM740UlHAB0pp5stxtHA6Qf4AUdBWc5Fz9Ap7RAhv3pPmcfavDLJM7wTUTOl3T0ZfkI.1LA-Khq_abzcRCUajXOziJbY-VK_2SuQlemyuoJT-GE&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=the+safe+keep&amp;qid=1751730370&amp;s=books&amp;sprefix=the+safe+keep%2Cstripbooks%2C206&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Safe Keep</a>. A psychological thriller mixed with erotica, revenge and a subtle incisive angle on Hitler&#8217;s war, <em>The Safe Keep</em> captivated me from the get-go. I&#8217;m not the only one. The book won the <a href="https://womensprize.com/prizes/womens-prize-for-fiction/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Women’s Prize for Fiction</a>, as well as was shortlisted for the Booker Prize in 2024. Only six books made the shortlist, and this was the first time a Dutch author was chosen. <em>The Safe Keep</em> was named a best book of 2024 by the New York Times, the Washington Post, LA Times Time Magazine, the Economist, the Sunday Times and a host of others. In short, it&#8217;s worth a read.</p>
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<p class="Script">Think Daphne de Moyer&#8217;s, <em>Rebecca</em> or Ian McEwan’s <em>Atonement</em> with a twist. The 258-page novel centres on a nearly 30-year-old woman named Isabel, living in a small town in the eastern part of the Netherlands. It&#8217;s 1961, sixteen years after the end of WWII. Isabelle is a recluse taking care of the house that she and her two brothers and late mother fled to during the war.</p>
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<p class="Script">Isabel has no friends, no life really. Her weeks consist of mundane errands -going to the butcher, the baker, visiting her banker to see about her allowance. She has two brothers, Henrik and Louis who left home years ago and who rarely visit. She resents them for their carefree life while she dutifully maintains the house, and everything in it from the crockery to the curtains. Her younger brother Henrik fled as a teenager when their rigid cold mother disapproved of his sexuality. He lives with his Algerian boyfriend, Sebastian.</p>
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<p class="Script">And the older brother Louis  is a bit of a womanizer, falling in and out of love easily. Most annoying to Isabel, Louis is set to inherit the house once he marries and settles down.</p>
<p class="Script">Isabel&#8217;s world is upended when Louis brings his latest girlfriend, Ava, to live at the house, one long hot summer while he travels on a work project.</p>
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<p class="Script">Isabelle can&#8217;t stand Ava. Her badly dyed hair, her sloppy ways, getting up late, going to bed late, the way she touches everything in the house and asks so many questions. Who is this annoying woman? And then Isabel starts to suspect Ava of stealing. A teaspoon has gone missing, then a plate, she becomes obsessed watching Ava&#8217;s every move.</p>
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<p class="Script">And that&#8217;s just part one in a three-part book. Below is an edited, condensed version of our conversation. You can listen to the full interview <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/p/demystifying-the-magic-with-yael" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> on my podcast<a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/podcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> Elena Meets the Author</a>.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Yael, welcome to the show. I&#8217;m so glad you could make it.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Yael:</b> Oh, I&#8217;m thrilled to be here. That was a great introduction. I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;ve been able to summarize the book better than that., so I might steal parts of it.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Very funny. I read that you wrote this book in just six months, that the idea for the novel came to you between two family funerals in the Netherlands. Can you tell us where the seed to the novel started at and your process of writing the Safe Keep? Had the ideas been percolating for a while?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I went to two funerals and in between them, I looked out over the fields and the idea came to me. When I was a kid, what I would do when I couldn&#8217;t fall asleep is I would do mind theatre. I would imagine putting the VCR on and pressing play on my favorite Disney movie. And then I would just play the whole movie in my head from beginning to end, or as far as I could get before falling asleep. I would do this every single night. Most often it was <i>101 Dalmatians</i>.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Great movie</p>
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<p class="Script">I would just go into the latest scene of a movie or a story that I made up myself and disappear into that. And I think that&#8217;s something I reached for in the grief between the two funerals.</p>
<p class="Script">I think I was looking for a story that would distract me wholly. And the idea of Isabel and the house and a stranger coming in took hold of me. The truth is that the themes have been percolating for years. The frustration I&#8217;d felt with how the Dutch memorialize their history but also questions of complicity and culpability throughout history. These are conversations that I&#8217;ve been having for years and years and years as an academic, but also as a reader. And then all of it came together quickly after that,</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> So, when you moved to Holland from Israel, how old were you?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">I was 10. My father is Dutch. Hence my last name.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>What was your experience as a Jewish person moving from Israel to the Netherlands?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">At this moment in time, I hesitate to talk about my childhood experiences. because I&#8217;m always afraid that it&#8217;s going to be taken out of context or seen in the wrong light when I compare Israel to the Netherlands.  I hesitate to speak of Israel with any kind of nostalgia, especially in this current climate because I do want to be careful of creating nostalgia around Israel and its politics.</p>
<p class="Script">(Having said that), there was an intense cultural backlash moving to a part of a country where I was one of a handful of Jewish children, I think maybe max five, and I mean, the other ones were my sisters and cousins.</p>
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<p class="Script">I experienced quite a lot of strange, funny, but also painful, antisemitic moments there. I have this one memory of walking across the playground, just outside of high school, and this girl and this guy, they were just hardcore making out. They were just going for it. Leaning against the bike rack. And then the girl removes the guy&#8217;s face from her face, like you can almost hear the smooching sound of it, and she shouts across the yard, in Dutch…. ‘Are you that Jew girl?’</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Wow. What did you say?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">You say yes, and then you keep walking. There were more intense moments of children who I believe didn&#8217;t quite know what they were doing or had decided to be edgy, and would carve swastikas into lockers or tables, or would draw cartoons of me and then slip them so I could see them.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Right.</p>
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<p class="Script">Not only did I go from a place where I didn&#8217;t have to think much about my identity as a Jewish person to but suddenly, I had to also explain that identity to a community who’s only understanding of Jewishness was the Holocaust or Anne Frank or from antisemitic tropes, the bread and butter of Dutch storytelling sometimes.</p>
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<p class="Script">It was a whiplash in many ways, going from knowing a language and knowing your friends to trying to figure out how popularity works in a place where you don&#8217;t understand the cultural conventions.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>You set your novel in 1961. Why?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I grew up in a time and space where the war was absolutely and completely over, and yet it kept on creeping up in strange ways. In anecdotes, in conversations, in remnants in the city where Jews lived or at the synagogue where they used to worship. These places had either been reshaped or emptied out. And in the Dutch language there&#8217;s remnants of Yiddish from the people who used to speak Yiddish.</p>
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<p class="Script"> I felt like I grew up in a post-war environment, but the ghost of the war was always present. It  was me. I was the ghost, the person who reminded people. I wanted to place the novel in 1961 because I wanted to explore that.</p>
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<p class="Script">I think also we have an association with the sixties. We have this idea it&#8217;s the era of liberation, excess, creating a new identity that isn&#8217;t overshadowed by the war.</p>
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<p class="Script">And then to then follow a character Isabel who knows no excess and no liberation, and then to slowly pull her apart seemed fascinating to me.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> Yeah, that was very good. Did you really write the book in six months?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I did.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Amazing.</p>
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<p class="Script">This is what I always say to my students. You must remember, before this novel came, there were many others that were not written in six months and never saw the light of day. And it&#8217;s not that I woke up one day and thought ‘I want to be a writer’. Let&#8217;s see what I can do. And then sat behind the computer and it rolled out of me. Years and years of attempting. I&#8217;d never sent anything out because I was never satisfied with anything I&#8217;d written so far. When the idea for the Safe Keep came to me, I was writing a different novel, and it felt terrible. I felt like I was cheating on the other novel.</p>
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<p class="Script">Also, the six month (was preceded by) four months creating the outlines, putting the plot together. A lot of people have asked me about whether I just started writing and saw where it took me.</p>
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<p class="Script"> The thought of that makes me want to sweat. It makes me so nervous. The idea of starting to write without knowing where I&#8217;m going to go. I&#8217;m an intense planner when it comes to writing. Not only did I have outlines upon outlines, I had color-coded flashcards.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Wow.</p>
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<p class="Script"> I wanted to create as much scaffolding as possible, including bits of dialogue, bits of movement. I already had certain scenes a little bit written out, so by the time that I started writing, it was basically just colouring in (the story).</p>
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<p class="Script">When I write, I don&#8217;t want to think about the plot so that I can immerse myself in the language I want, the cadence, the rhythm. I create the plot and the outlining so I can experiment with language.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> So, you&#8217;re free?</p>
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<p class="Script">  I&#8217;m free of the plot. Yes</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Can you tell us a bit about Isabel&#8217;s conflicted relationship with her two brothers, Henrik and Louis.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">Of course. Henrik left the house when he was 16. His mother found out about his affair with a piano teacher, and she gave him an ultimatum: Stay here and never do this again or leave. Of course, he left. He rebuilds his relationship with Isabel eventually, but Isabel will always. associate his love life with abandonment.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Mm.</p>
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<p class="Script"> Her brother desired something and that something was more important to him than staying there with her, him keeping her company, being loyal to her.</p>
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<p class="Script">Andbon the other hand, we have Louis the oldest who has never really understood Isabel, has never given her a lot of attention or time. He too has this habit of putting his love life first. He always has a new girlfriend, and he always brings her no matter what.</p>
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<p class="Script">He doesn&#8217;t quite consider the sensitivity of a situation, the nuance of it. For example, he brings a random girlfriend with him to his mother&#8217;s funeral.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> I loved that detail.</p>
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<p class="Script"> Isabel is annoyed with it because now that girlfriend is in all the pictures, and no one even remembers her name. So, through her brothers, Isabel associates love and sexuality with selfishness and abandonment. And she tries to rebuild the sibling relationship by instituting these monthly or bi-monthly dinners.</p>
<p class="Script">But each time that they meet up, it seems to reaffirm to her how self-involved her siblings are, and how she&#8217;s the only one who truly cares about what matters, the house and their mother&#8217;s legacy. Of course, when she then comes to find her own desire, she has to work through a lot of those feelings herself to be able to justify that for herself.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena</b>:<strong>  Was it easy for you to write suspense or did you have to go back and edit out things to make it sparer?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">Yes. I love writing suspense.  I love trying to figure out what creates tension and what breaks tension, especially with a voice like Isabel who&#8217;s not allowed to have any self-reflection. If she had the ability to think about her actions, or her desire or interiority in any way, this book could not have existed, right?</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> True</p>
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<p class="Script"> There would&#8217;ve been no tension. So, I needed to create a voice for Isabel where she didn&#8217;t have access to herself, and we as readers don&#8217;t have access to her.</p>
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<p class="Script">I would write some dialogue and then be like, oh no, she understands too much. I would go back and have to edit a lot of it away or create these half thoughts, these unfinished thoughts.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> exactly</p>
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<p class="Script">She doesn&#8217;t only halt continuously when she speaks, but also in her internal monologues. In some of the scenes that we see through her eyes, the knowledge is constantly hinted at and taken away. And this is also how Dutch society works. You are given hints of something, and it&#8217;s taken away, and you&#8217;re not encouraged to think about it too much.</p>
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<p class="Script">It&#8217;s just snatches of realization that are then taken away. It was very interesting indeed to see what creates tension and what releases tension and when I needed to really pull it as tight as possible. But you cannot go on with high tension forever. You need to have moments of relaxation or hope or something else. And to see exactly how much I could make sure that you do want to continue reading, that you don&#8217;t get tired of the heightened emotion of it all.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>As you&#8217;re writing the book, are you thinking of it a bit like a film?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Now we&#8217;re back to <i>101 Dalmations</i>. My parents both worked in film.  Before I knew how to write, my parents had taught me how to make little animations, like in book margins. The pages taught me how to do a storyboard because if I wanted to make an animation, I had to think beforehand. It’s not like a drawing or a painting, you have to think of your character and movement. I’m an avid film lover too.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <b>What would you like readers to take away from this book?</b></p>
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<p class="Script"> I wrote this book for myself. I was thinking a lot about what I wanted from society and what I was unhappy with. And it came from a place of feeling undesired. At the heart of prejudice, marginalization, and looking away from suffering is indifference.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Mmmm.</p>
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<p class="Script"> And the opposite of indifference isn&#8217;t tolerance or isn&#8217;t charity, it&#8217;s desire, saying, I was indifferent to you, I was repulsed by you even, and now I desire you. I wanted to take a character from beginning to end and see how she could start with indifference or repulsion even and bring her slowly step by step into desire.</p>
<p class="Script">I wanted it to end on this idea that there are  little steps that we might find ourselves (doing) as part of a prejudicial system. It’s these tiny little moments of indifference and thoughtless action that slowly take us  into a place where we are complicit. We are part of a larger evil. And I wanted to chip at that system just a little bit. So, I think, if readers take away anything, it&#8217;ll be that. Find desire where you did not expect desire.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Well, thank you Yael. I know we&#8217;re out of time. Thank you so much. I really appreciate your making the time.</p>
<p><em>July, 2025</em></p>
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		<title>Q&#038;A with Bestselling Author Annabel Monaghan, It&#8217;s a Love Story</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Elena: Today I&#8217;m speaking to Annabel Monaghan about her lates novel, It&#8217;s a Love Story, which hits newsstands May 27th. I love Annabel&#8217;s smart, funny romcoms. This one had me teary eyed on my second read. I mean, I already knew exactly what was going to happen. I don’t know how she does it-  her...</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> Today I&#8217;m speaking to Annabel Monaghan about her lates novel, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Its-Love-Story-Annabel-Monaghan/dp/0593714105/ref=sr_1_3?crid=372M55YNRY8LM&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ywMwtAtZLSvmhz7Y0DEJKlWCv56CBpwQmB8952XlMib5hNo_Rw_7Z7MPyqoO9rVDHlnMPIz5pbZUzHLfeNTGC7hOoolINWs3nD8LOCFlEGLsVCSwrGaAJDTnYz_pb-eY4rZxI8HMEQNjldmIvYhWkxKxAYD2jkBBjZg7z7OlIeXctCrcVJT6zWR5Q9us-G2MFPyB-gCW5vup2EqpkoAeZ42pSTxGIJKrpqw0JYSXqSM.SIlsB6A_wnK4zPHbO5SeLWjwty1N1b-Hz8iLGhNYCEA&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=annabel+monaghan+books&amp;qid=1748027023&amp;sprefix=annabel+monaghan+%2Caps%2C114&amp;sr=8-3" target="_blank" rel="noopener">It&#8217;s a Love Story</a>, which hits newsstands May 27th. I love Annabel&#8217;s smart, funny romcoms. This one had me teary eyed on my second read. I mean, I already knew exactly what was going to happen.</p>
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<p class="Script">I don’t know how she does it-  her timing, wit, knack for creating lovable, flawed characters and slowly building sexy romance is just perfect. This particular story centers around a somewhat unhinged Jane Jackson, who was a child TV star and now 20 years later or so, is still in Hollywood and trying to get a movie produced.</p>
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<p class="Script">Jane is not having much luck and whenever Jane gets nervous, she hides in her closet or her under her desk at work and eats candy. Enter Dan Finnegan, an arrogant cinematographer who almost immediately becomes Jane&#8217;s nemesis when he trashes her latest film idea to her boss, Nathan. I should add that Dan is somewhat handsome, a cross between a fireman and a swimsuit model.</p>
<p class="Script">I first interviewed Annabel about <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Nora-Goes-Script-Annabel-Monaghan/dp/0593420055/ref=sr_1_6?crid=372M55YNRY8LM&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ywMwtAtZLSvmhz7Y0DEJKlWCv56CBpwQmB8952XlMib5hNo_Rw_7Z7MPyqoO9rVDHlnMPIz5pbZUzHLfeNTGC7hOoolINWs3nD8LOCFlEGLsVCSwrGaAJDTnYz_pb-eY4rZxI8HMEQNjldmIvYhWkxKxAYD2jkBBjZg7z7OlIeXctCrcVJT6zWR5Q9us-G2MFPyB-gCW5vup2EqpkoAeZ42pSTxGIJKrpqw0JYSXqSM.SIlsB6A_wnK4zPHbO5SeLWjwty1N1b-Hz8iLGhNYCEA&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=annabel+monaghan+books&amp;qid=1748027023&amp;sprefix=annabel+monaghan+%2Caps%2C114&amp;sr=8-6" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Nora Goes Off Script</a> a few years ago and have not stopped devouring her comedic love stories ever since. I feel about Annabel&#8217;s writing a bit the way I feel about my pug Josephine, who I remind daily that she&#8217;s not allowed to die ever, and Annabel is not allowed to stop writing ever.</p>
<p>Below are edited highlights from our Q&amp;A. You can listen to the full episode <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com/p/unveiling-the-magic-annabel-monaghan" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> on <a href="https://elenabowes.substack.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Elena Meets the Author</a>. Annabel, welcome to the show.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Annabel:</b> Oh my goodness. That is honestly the best thing I&#8217;ve ever heard. I don&#8217;t think anyone&#8217;s ever likened me to their dog before and I have a dog. I know what a compliment that is.  Thank you for having me back.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>My pleasure. Is there anything else you&#8217;d like to add about your book without giving the whole plot away?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">Well, they&#8217;re going to do a little bit of traveling. The story itself is really about coming to terms with all the stories you&#8217;ve told yourself your entire life growing up, all the beliefs that we hold really tightly about ourselves and taking a second to let some of them go so that we can move on with our lives.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>So your inspiration for this book, I saw in your acknowledgements that you mentioned a book called <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Im-Glad-My-Mom-Died/dp/1982185821/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3C3FYLF0EH4K2&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.8aUIO9WK1xwoLVAHks816bJH3B__rTvFqlRwpaBYTj9bJjWGpgaVs_QeGcMmklettf9jcGpAhr6MlCGgGsv4-elh5zXiZcRw5py8_7jI55eTRpG0yeEwep1yQJzippUrgwKcIfpFLGpm9EzMhlTElAJ_HiDCyN9Yh2hIArlcvB0QIwDHn6riFvdlh-0ev5VZC-30xm20lgTX6Pj9vwohgw0GbcM1Y-Es-NoyO9A6VIA.ZP7c_-DBuxJtJLUmq-r4zhNjHJwnANytbOjg92sG8bE&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=I%27m+Glad+my+mom+died&amp;qid=1747948954&amp;sprefix=i%27m+glad+my+mom+died%2Caps%2C221&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">I&#8217;m Glad My Mom Died</a>. Can you tell us about that?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> It is such a hard title to say, isn&#8217;t it? Every time I say it, I almost wish I never brought it up.  I picked that book up two years ago, and I read it straight through and when I finished, I turned back to the first page, and I read it again. I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;ve ever done that in my life.</p>
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<p class="Script">It’s by Jennette McCurdy. She was a teen star. I was so taken by the writing. I don&#8217;t know that I&#8217;ve ever read writing quite that crisp and unusual. I also really got into the mind of teen stars and all of these teens like Jennette that I watched growing up.</p>
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<p class="Script">So, while I was watching them, they were going through puberty on tv. And when I think about that time in my life, it was all about trying things on, maybe I&#8217;m going to dress like Madonna now, or maybe I&#8217;m going try to have this personality. What was it like to grow up on TV where you&#8217;re actually being dressed and given a script every day?</p>
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<p class="Script">Is there part of your life where you missed your personal development as a person because you were always told where to stand. So that&#8217;s where Jane Jackson came from. She is the most unhinged character I&#8217;ve ever written. She is an adult. She&#8217;s trying to make it in the movie business. She is so unself-aware, has no clue really of who she is. So that was my starting point. I just wanted to see what she would be like all grown up.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Was it easy to write the whole unhinged part?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Oddly, I&#8217;m embarrassed to say it was so much easier for me than trying to write somebody who has their act together. I mean, just the thrill of having her rip open candy bars on the floor of her closet and shove them in her mouth, the actual release that I felt. She’s a person who always knows what she&#8217;s going to say in advance, but then if she gets really mad, she just lets loose and says something totally different.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>The film <i>The Notebook</i> comes up an awful lot. Jane professes to hate that film, but I don&#8217;t believe her. Does she really hate <i>The Notebook</i>?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> No, she does not. But as it’s revealed throughout the book, it&#8217;s a touch point for the moment in her life when she stopped believing in love. I happen to be a <i>Notebook</i> lover because I&#8217;m a normal human being. Everybody loves that movie. But there are a lot of holes that you can poke, and it was really fun to play the devil&#8217;s advocate and find those holes.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Each of your novels comes out just before the summer and they make me yearn for summer, like no other book. Where is this fictional seaside place based on, because it&#8217;s not quite the Hamptons.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> No, it is a made-up Long Island town called Oak Shore, same town as in my book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Same-Time-Summer-Annabel-Monaghan/dp/059354496X/ref=sr_1_5?crid=372M55YNRY8LM&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ywMwtAtZLSvmhz7Y0DEJKlWCv56CBpwQmB8952XlMib5hNo_Rw_7Z7MPyqoO9rVDHlnMPIz5pbZUzHLfeNTGC7hOoolINWs3nD8LOCFlEGLsVCSwrGaAJDTnYz_pb-eY4rZxI8HMEQNjldmIvYhWkxKxAYD2jkBBjZg7z7OlIeXctCrcVJT6zWR5Q9us-G2MFPyB-gCW5vup2EqpkoAeZ42pSTxGIJKrpqw0JYSXqSM.SIlsB6A_wnK4zPHbO5SeLWjwty1N1b-Hz8iLGhNYCEA&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=annabel+monaghan+books&amp;qid=1748027023&amp;sprefix=annabel+monaghan+%2Caps%2C114&amp;sr=8-5" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Same Time Next Summer</a>. It is so fictional that ordinary people have homes on the beach. I like a good fantasy.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> You make it so people want to go there, like me, now.</p>
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<p class="Script"> I don&#8217;t know how to get you to Oak Shore. Don&#8217;t bring your realtor to Oak Shore looking for waterfront property.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>And so is it pretty much the deal with your publisher, where they say, every May, we&#8217;d like a book</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Yes. I&#8217;m in contract to write a book for summer 2026 and summer 2027. Don&#8217;t tell them, but I would do this for free and until I die. I honestly don&#8217;t know what else I&#8217;d be doing. It&#8217;s really what I love to do. And then the culmination of it, in a few weeks I&#8217;m going on book tour and that&#8217;s super fun. And then I&#8217;ll start another book.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Do you not panic a teeny bit with these deadlines? Or do you have enough ideas percolating that you&#8217;re okay?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I don’t panic. When I was finishing this book,  I was having ideas about the book that I&#8217;m writing now, the next book. I&#8217;m not a good multitasker. Having children was really challenging for me. Like, why are we doing so many different things? So, I was terrified by how much I was thinking about that next book while I was finishing this book. So, I have to shut the door on any ideas. I don&#8217;t even write them down in a notebook. I&#8217;m like, it is not time. I&#8217;m not entertaining this idea yet. And then I start when I&#8217;m done.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>I have to say I got uncomfortable because things were going quite smoothly and I was getting far along in the book and I knew there had to be a looming crisis. I just knew it. And then the crisis came, and I had to speed read past it. It was so uncomfortable. I wanted to get back to the love part.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Oh, I love that it made you uncomfortable.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Very.. and Jack Quinlan is such a bad person. You need to do a sequel where something bad happens to him.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Yes, he gets lice. Is there something worse than that? That was the first thing I could think of.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>That&#8217;s really bad. Dan, the quiet, thoughtful cinematographer who is not exactly what Jane thought he was. Did he come to you quite naturally?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I just started writing Dan.  I was probably two drafts in before I understood who he was. One thing I&#8217;ll tell you is that I am married to a quiet man. I really like a quiet man.  Leo Vance from <em>Nora Goes Off Script</em> may be the sexiest man alive. But he’s not my type. I adored him while I was writing him, but that&#8217;s not for me. I loved writing a man who just knows who he is and doesn&#8217;t have to justify it to everybody.  I find that very, very attractive. So, you know, maybe my own household sort of snuck in there on this one.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Nice,  I like a quiet man too. Your love scenes, do you read them aloud? What&#8217;s your secret to writing them so convincingly without being in any way pornographic or corny?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> It’s getting easier just because I&#8217;ve been doing it more. I draft those scenes over and over again, and then I put them away and then reread them. Sometimes somebody&#8217;s got three arms. I have to imagine them.</p>
<p class="Script">There are two approaches to writing a love scene. One has body parts in it, and one doesn&#8217;t have body parts in it, like we&#8217;re not naming body parts. So, my approach is we&#8217;re together and you can see how they are together and how it&#8217;s going, but you&#8217;re not saying all the things.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>It&#8217;s very suggestive. You barely mentioned a breast. I think that was it.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> I&#8217;ve gone wild. I&#8217;ve gone totally off the rails. But you know, the truth about all that kind of stuff is the moments before the kiss are more exciting than the kiss. It&#8217;s the anticipation of the thing, the buildup that feels really great. So that&#8217;s fun to write.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>What was the most difficult part to write?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">The thing with her mother, it&#8217;s really complicated. Jane has a very close relationship with her mother. They do and say everything to make each other happy. But they don&#8217;t always say the honest thing. Towards the end of the book, there is more honesty and something kind of blows up. And it was important to me to get that right. And that was very difficult.  I wrote that a lot of times and in a lot of different ways. Opening up the hard conversation and how that would actually look.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Right. And it was very interesting too that the mother had such a different attitude towards love than her daughter, than Jane. She was willing to get hurt.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Her mother would jump off any cliff, like, <i>oh, this is going to be great</i>. <i>He&#8217;s the one, let&#8217;s go</i>. But you know, as often happens, if you have a parent who maybe spends money to their own peril, you become very frugal. We are often a reaction to our parents and Jane saw her mother get her heart broken and put her back together enough times to know that love is not safe.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>I thought this could make a great film. You&#8217;ve got that magical setting, those handsome Finnegans, the steamy scenes, Jane in her Eleanor Roosevelt bathing suit. Do you ever try to make your books into films?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">I have book to film agents in Los Angeles, this very cool duo of young women, and they are sending this out.  Nora Goes Off Script has been optioned, and that&#8217;s something that&#8217;s going to happen in the next year if it happens. I&#8217;ll give you news as it comes.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b><strong> Okay good because I can help with the casting. So, tell us about what you&#8217;re working on now.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Okay, so I am on the second draft of this. I&#8217;m not going to write 13 drafts on this book. This one&#8217;s going to come together, in case my editor&#8217;s listening to this, I swear to God, this is not going to break your heart. So, this is about a woman. She&#8217;s a single mother, she&#8217;s 39, about to turn 40, and she is a part-time kindergarten teacher. She also works for her dad at this fish store that he owns, and she strikes up a fake dating relationship with a man, who is kind of like a Vanderbilt. The whole thing&#8217;s a little bit like Pretty Woman, but there are no hookers.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Ah, she&#8217;s a kindergarten teacher.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Yes. So, she&#8217;s not hired to have sex with him, but he needs a date for a PR reason.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>I take it he&#8217;s somewhat handsome.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> He&#8217;s so handsome. Here&#8217;s what&#8217;s wrong with the world, and I will say this, it&#8217;s much harder to sell a guy to a reader like Dan Finnegan, who probably doesn&#8217;t have health insurance and is maybe like killing himself in his own apartment with the chemicals from his photography, than it is to sell a Vanderbilt.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>So, your work is easier with this man?</strong></p>
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<p class="Script">Never going to be easier, but maybe.  I really like him though. He&#8217;s a little troubled.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Oh, good.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Yeah.</p>
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<p class="Script"><b>Elena:</b> <strong>Okay, good. Well, I&#8217;m looking forward to talking to you about that one next year. Thank you so much for coming on the show.</strong></p>
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<p class="Script"> Thank you!</p>
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<p><em>May, 2025</em></p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="font-weight: 400;">I love my husband, I do. But Stretch challenges me in areas that I fear exceed my comfort zone. I’m talking about this Spanish pilgrimage hike, the Camino di Santiago that we’re about to do five weeks from now. It includes several days of strenuous walking, between 12-18 miles a day. And the worst of it, the part that I dread the most is not the extensive walking or the unstylish exercise gear or the Spanish food, but the accommodations along the way. They look grim. I can survive anything if I know there’s a steaming bath and a cosy bedroom at the end of the day. By cosy I mean ideally linen sheets, medium firm thick mattress, no possibility of bedbugs, pretty curtains and chaise longue and a picturesque view. Is that asking so much? This is where we’ll be staying.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">I lie, this is only one of the places- as we’ll be changing hotels (&#8216;hotel&#8217; seems generous) every night.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Stretch peppers most mornings now with statements like-</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">You’ll need to get mountain gloves as the mornings will be quite chilly.’</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">Has anyone ever heard of mountain gloves? Or &#8230;</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“We should pack rain ponchos.”</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">Sadly, I know what that is, and the visuals are making me weep. From liner socks to clothes that wick to heel balm, this trip is anything but sexy.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">This morning, Easter Sunday, a day of celebration or at least relaxation, I was just pouring my first cup of coffee in the kitchen- planning on bringing it right back to bed to start my daily meditation and journaling ritual- when I got distracted by Stretch who was busy trying on his latest purchase- a complicated and ugly backpack.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“So, you see it has these belts in the front, one by your waist and another by your chest to distribute your weight evenly” he explains as he snaps various buckles like a flight attendant in my kitchen.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">I nod sleepily. He’s kind of blocking my way to the stairs and thus my bed.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“And then…” (He’s now taking the backpack off, walking to the sink, turning on the tap and filling a huge aqua-colored sac within the backpack with tap water) “There’s this nifty section here where you can store water. And another here where you’ll keep your electrolyte cocktail.”</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">Generally, with Stretch when he’s on a nerdy roll like this, I nod a lot, don&#8217;t ask any questions and try to exit the space quickly and subtly.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“You’ll need to take your bathrobe off”</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">“What? I ask.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">“It’s too thick. This is your backpack. You need to try it on.”</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">Readers, I am wearing a luxurious la Perla nightgown and a thick warm terrycloth bathrobe and Ugg slippers. Not a hiking outfit in any size, shape or form.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">“I am not taking off my bathrobe,” I say imperiously, moving past him with speed, Josephine in tow.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">My morning zen has been shaken by this man I married. We are in some ways very different people. Do opposites really attract? Some days I wonder.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Postscript-</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I just came back from an Easter day hike. Stretch said we needed to train for Spain. He told me the hike was 4 miles with ‘some elevation.’ Dear readers, if there’s one take away from this blog, never ignore or underestimate the word ‘elevation.’ We just climbed gargantuan boulders, the size of meteorites. Maybe they were meteorites.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">One of these rocks had a chain to help you pull yourself up. I kid you not. I would have turned around but that was even scarier. Have you ever tried sliding down a boulder? Stretch always does this- takes me on a loop hike where the only thing to do is move forward. On the way home I asked him how much ‘elevation’ we covered. “1200 feet, the same as climbing up the Empire State Building. You should be proud of yourself” I would be if I wasn&#8217;t so tired.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">So, on this celebratory exhausted note, Happy Easter! I hope you all had a great Easter with zero elevation. And if you know of a nice hotel along this Camino thing, please email me pronto.</p>
<p><em>April, 2023</em></p>
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		<title>Q&#038;A w Lynda Cohen Loigman, The Matchmaker&#8217;s Gift</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Jan 2023 17:16:34 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Lynda Cohen Loigman&#8217;s third novel The Matchmaker&#8217;s Gift is a charming, fast-paced story about Sara, a matchmaker on the Lower East Side of Manhattan in the early 1900’s who can see other peoples’ soulmates and Abby, her granddaughter who has inherited her grandmother’s gift, but problematically is a divorce attorney in the 1990’s. If only...</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="font-weight: 400;">Lynda Cohen Loigman&#8217;s third novel <a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Matchmakers-Gift-A-Novel/dp/B09YJ43P8W/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3NG4HILQ404JU&amp;keywords=the+matchmakers+gift&amp;qid=1674517803&amp;sprefix=the+matchmakers%2Caps%2C145&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Matchmaker&#8217;s Gift</a> is a charming, fast-paced story about Sara, a matchmaker on the Lower East Side of Manhattan in the early 1900’s who can see other peoples’ soulmates and Abby, her granddaughter who has inherited her grandmother’s gift, but problematically is a divorce attorney in the 1990’s. If only Sara and Abby&#8217;s gifts weren&#8217;t a work of fiction, imagine all the unhappy pairings that could be spared.  I loved this book and found it a joy to read. You&#8217;ll love the characters, their relationships, the historical elements, and all the unusual matches made possible with a little magic.</p>
<p>Below is my interview with Loigman:</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Tell us a few of the more surprising facts that you learned that you included in your story?</strong></p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">Before I began researching this novel, I assumed that all Jewish matchmakers in the earlier part of the twentieth century were like Yenta from Fiddler on the Roof, or Dolly Levi from Hello Dolly. What I found out, however, was that in New York City, in 1910, there were over five thousand professional Jewish matchmakers, and that the bulk of them were men. When I learned this, I knew that I wanted Sara to live and work during those years. I knew that, as a young, unmarried woman, she would struggle for a place in the professional world of the men she was competing against. The research solidified the time period for me, as well as clarifying the conflict of my main character.</p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>I love all the Yiddish sayings scattered throughout, often used as chapter heads: When a Thief Kisses You, Count Your Teeth, It’s Never Too Late to Die or Get Married, He Bakes Lies Like They Are Bagels, When You Weep, the One You Are Meant for Tastes the Salt of Your Tears. Can you tell us which is your favorite Yiddish phrase and why?</strong></p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">The last phrase you mention has always been the most powerful for me. It’s actually a Hebrew saying that I originally saw written as follows: “Let there be such oneness between us that when one cries, the other tastes salt.” I don’t think it originally had a romantic connotation, but I adapted it in order to imbue it with a romantic significance. In the story, when Abby asks Sara how to know if someone is the person she is meant to be with, Sara answers that when Abby weeps, the one she is meant for will taste the salt of her tears. To me, this is an incrediblly beautiful idea because it signifies absolute empathy and closeness.</p>
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<p>You can read the rest of my Q&amp;A <a href="https://www.26.org.uk/articles/interviews/author-qa-lynda-cohen-loigman" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> in <a href="https://mailchi.mp/d236b77128db/26-newsletter-5905323?e=5f7618a3ee" target="_blank" rel="noopener">26</a>.</p>
<p><em>January, 2023</em></p>
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		<title>Q&#038;A w Annabel Monaghan- Nora Goes Off Script</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Aug 2022 15:18:53 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Oh, how I loved this book. Annabel Monaghan’s debut novel Nora Goes Off Script was a joy to read and reread. The protagonist Nora Hamilton is a romance channel screenwriter so she knows the formula for love better than anyone. When her good for nothing husband Ben leaves her and their two kids, Nora turns...</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Oh, how I loved this book. <a href="http://annabelmonaghan.com/column/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Annabel Monaghan’s</a> debut novel <a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nora-Goes-Off-Script-heartwarming/dp/1399703013/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1DVV7C89V3K1H&amp;keywords=nora+goes+off+script&amp;qid=1661526114&amp;sprefix=nora%2Caps%2C272&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Nora Goes Off Script</a> was a joy to read and reread. The protagonist Nora Hamilton is a romance channel screenwriter so she knows the formula for love better than anyone. When her good for nothing husband Ben leaves her and their two kids, Nora turns her marital collapse into the best script she’s ever written. Enter former Sexiest Man Alive Leo Vance, who is set to play Ben and suddenly Nora’s heavily managed single mom life – (sunrise and coffee, kids to school, jog, write, nap, get kids from school, homework and dinner, Wheel of Fortune and wine, bed) goes wildly off script. It’s a love story and a story about motherhood where the characters pull you in and don’t let you go until The End. </strong></p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Now for my questions with the gifted author:</strong></p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>I read that the story idea came to you after watching a lot of Hallmark movies while recovering from surgery. Can you expand on this?</strong></p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">I was stuck in bed recovering from surgery for a few weeks in 2019, and I got hooked on the Hallmark Channel. It’s not hard to do; you just have to watch one. I got lost in all of those beautiful small towns with their independently owned hardware stores and festive community events. After the first few I thought, wait, didn’t I just see this one? But maybe last time she had a cupcake store instead of a custom wreath business? It was the same movie over and over again, and I got to a point where I could predict the exact moment that the handsome guy would be called back to the city, only to have a change of heart and return immediately after the commercial break.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">I started wondering about what kind of person wrote these super romantic movies. And I wondered what it would feel like to write them if you’d never really been in love. And that’s where the idea for Nora Hamilton came from – she’s newly divorced and has never been in love so she writes these scripts with a bit of eye rolling. I thought it would be fun to see what would happen if she fell madly in love.</p>
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<p><strong>One of the things I loved about your book is what a great mother Nora is and how in real life motherhood interrupts a lot of things, including a hot romance. Nora’s two children Bernadette and Arthur are such perfectly drawn characters. Can you describe your inspiration for them both?</strong></p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">I have three sons, none of whom are anything like Arthur. I thought that he came right out of thin air until I was completely done with the book, and I realized that he is exactly like I was at ten. He embodies all of my childhood worry about my family and all of my magical thinking about how I could fix things with the right amount of pep and determination. This is one of the many ways your subconscious asserts itself when you are writing, and it was actually very healing for me to write about things turning out great for him. Having said that, my oldest son did play Fagin in Oliver Twist in the fifth grade. And he killed it.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">Bernadette is my little day-dream daughter. I smile just typing this and thinking about her big ideas and enthusiasm.</p>
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<p><strong>On the section on your web site called “Things You Don’t Know”, you confess that as a child you always thought you’d end up marrying Steve Martin. You have an MBA from Wharton and briefly worked as an investment banker. I guess you grew up, saw Steve Martin was married, and decided (briefly, Thank God) to pursue a life with few laughs?</strong></p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">That’s such a fun question. As I kid, I always felt like Steve Martin was a person I would meet and should probably marry. Today, I think that being married to a wild and crazy guy would drive me right up a wall. I always wanted to be a writer, but I went into banking as a means to support myself, and it wasn’t until I was 37 that I got back to writing. Even then, it took me a while to find my voice and to be comfortable with attempting to write anything humorous. It is no small act of bravery to try to crack a joke.</p>
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<p><strong>Please tell us a few surprising things about yourself- that aren’t on your website?</strong></p>
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<p style="font-weight: 400;">I’ve had three Volvo station wagons in the past 25 years. All different colors – silver, then black, and now champagne because I’ve gone completely wild. Also, I really like to iron. I do a lot of writing in my head while ironing ratty t-shirts.</p>
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<p>Thank you Annabel! And to everyone else out there, you can read the rest of my interview with Annabel <a href="https://www.26.org.uk/articles/interviews/author-qa-annabel-monaghan">here</a> on 26&#8217;s <a href="https://www.26.org.uk" target="_blank" rel="noopener">August newsletter</a>.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;"><em>August, 2022</em></p>
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